How can I break up with my boyfriend?

[Saures]

I know that is very harsh, but if you have read some of my previous threads, you'll probably understand why.

A lot of people throughout the past nine months (the time I've spent with my boyfriend), are you happy? And I can only answer yes, after picking out every tiny thing, he has done for me, i have done for him, things that have been said and done.

And suprisingly, the amount of unhappy memories I have with him over weigh the happy ones.

 

I'm a depressant, I've moved 200 miles away from my boyfriend and to be fair, we share nothing in common.

As we've spent more time with each other annd talked and got to know each other more, we've started to realise we couldn't be any more different.

The ironic thing is, the difference is what brought us together, as far as he is concerned, I was the plain, innocent girl, and to me he was the badass boy. Just so happens, that mix doesn't go very well in the end.

 

The reason I am asking "how to break up with him" is because, I cannot do it.

I cannot simply wish away everything we've had together, yes, we have been through awful times, but the problem is, because we've got through it, it makes it a lot harder.

I am not happy, I feel no commitment, no trust, no feelings longer live in our relationship.

Every time we break up, or agree to a break up, there I am, running back to him again, telling him it isn't right.

I just can't seem to break up with him or him break up with me.

I just wish he'd just say "you're dumped" and leave, with no explaination, no "if you were like my friends girlfriends this would not of happened", no blame.

That is another probably, we blame each other, and it makes it harder. We don't love each other anymore, we pretty much hate each other.

 

How can I break up with him?

[Eocsor]

You talk to him face to face and say "I want to break up with you because I'm not happy" It's that simple. And you OWE IT TO HIM if you are miserable because it's not fair to stay in a relationship where you really don't care for the other person. So man up and do it. Don't be a coward.

[Maroney555]

You talk to him face to face and say "I want to break up with you because I'm not happy" It's that simple. And you OWE IT TO HIM if you are miserable because it's not fair to stay in a relationship where you really don't care for the other person. So man up and do it. Don't be a coward.

 

The longer you wait, the harder it is going to be on him and harder for you to do it. It's not fair to EITHER of you to stay in this relationship.

 

I did that with my ex for an extra year after I wasn't happy and it took years on both of us rebuilding to feel better from the destructive relationship. If you don't end things, it is likely that you will too turn abusive and destructive.