I've had a second date

[putter65]

I saw this woman about 3 weeks ago, we were setup by this mutual friend, a woman I've known for 10 years. We went for a meal and I enjoyed it. It was my first date in 15 years and I felt it well. She seemed a nice woman and I wanted to see her again.

 

After the date we kept in touch with texts etc for a few days and then she sort of disapeared. All of a sudden it was me who sending all the texts asking her she was etc. She would always reply but I felt something was wrong. Anyway after 10 days of this she sends me a text asking to see me again. So on Tuesday she picks me up in her car and we go for a drink. Straight away she starts complaining about everything, her job, her life. She also is rude on a few occasions, complaining about me not remembering everything from the first date.

 

At the end of the date, she starts crying and I hold her hand to comfort her. In the car drive home she cheers up and says that she enjoyed it and she mentions future meetings but with her kids and job, it won't be for awhile.

 

When I get in, I get a phone call from the mutual friend who set us up. She is the next door neighbour of this woman. She says I'm a nice guy and there is something I should know. She tells me that after my first date, this woman met another guy she met on the internet. She stayed at his house for the weekend, obviously slept with him. These 2 women had a fall out over this. I also got told that the woman I saw, her house is a tip and she doesn't look after her kids properly.

 

So obviously all this happened in the time when she hardly got it touch with me. And then she decides she wants to see me again.

 

I wasn't hurt or upset. Nothing really. Just curious, I act like the perfect gentleman and after 2 dates I get a hand shake from her thats it. Yet she goes and sleeps with a man she has never met before. (No idea if she is still seeing him or anything)

 

I'm not sure if I want to see her again, she was cranky with me which I didn't like and it wasn't alot of fun been with someone who is so unhappy. Yet on the first date she was charming and I liked her.

 

Any advice on this ?

[oldenoughtoknow]

Well putter, welcome to the excitement and drama of dating. Keep in mind, you don't know the whole story about her weekend getaway and sleeping arrangements. And after having a fall out with your friend, do you think it's a coincidence that you hear about her level of care for her house and kids now? I'd take this for what it is. You enjoyed her company on the first date. You're getting your feet wet again in the dating scene and building your confidence. Keep doing what you've been doing, and after the third, fourth or fifth date, if she's still no fun, then reevaluate and stop seeing her. But if I were you, for now I'd just go with it for the experience and companionship. You never know - this may lead to something, or this may lead to something else.

[mhowe]

Run Forest Run.

 

You've gotten your feet wet. Find a new beach with more stable women on it!!!

[putter65]

Thanks, I think that's good advice.

 

Lets see what happens, hopefully the third date will be better.

 

One thing though, since I've started seeing this woman I've had way more attention from other women. This woman who I had this serious crush on has sprung from nowhere and wants to have a coffee and a chat with me tomorrow. She knows about my dates by the way. Another woman I work with has mentioned 'coffee and a chat' - I've known her for nearly 10 years and she's never said anything like that before. Another woman from work who I told about my dates only a few days ago as suddenly started sending me messages on facebook. I don't think it's a coincedance.

[putter65]

Do stable women exist ?

[mhowe]

I know a few, but then again, like attracts like.

[putter65]

I know a few, but then again, like attracts like.

 

that hurts !

[oldenoughtoknow]

One thing though, since I've started seeing this woman I've had way more attention from other women. This woman who I had this serious crush on has sprung from nowhere and wants to have a coffee and a chat with me tomorrow. She knows about my dates by the way. Another woman I work with has mentioned 'coffee and a chat' - I've known her for nearly 10 years and she's never said anything like that before. Another woman from work who I told about my dates only a few days ago as suddenly started sending me messages on facebook. I don't think it's a coincidence.

 

See, that's kind of the way it works. Especially at work, it's easy for most people to fall into the woodwork. Now, there's a bit of a buzz that putter's been dating. That brings people out to see what's going on, and to take a second look at ol' putter. Ride the wave.

[putter65]

See, that's kind of the way it works. Especially at work, it's easy for most people to fall into the woodwork. Now, there's a bit of a buzz that putter's been dating. That brings people out to see what's going on, and to take a second look at ol' putter. Ride the wave.

 

lol - your a funny guy !

 

Thanks.

 

My social life seems to be getting into gear as well.

Coffee tomorrow with that lass, a meal with work mates on Saturday. I did remember going an whole year without going out once.

[putter65]

She wants to see me again on Friday, I agreed of course. Let see what happens !

[putter65]

She backed out claiming she was ill. Jesus ! I have had every excuse going this year !

 

I'm not going to see her again, too much hassle.

 

She aint that bright, she's been sending romantic messages all day on her facebook to this grey haired bloke she claimed she didn't know. I'm not going to be some half arsed reserve. Sod that ! I've been wasting my time sending texts for the last 2 weeks as well - 'how are you ?' etc

 

She served her purpose I suppose. I was stuck on this other woman for months and this one made me forget about her. Both were the same in the end, stringing me along as a 'friend' while they slept with some other guy. Both of them looked me in the face and lied.

 

There's one other at work and everybody there is telling me to ask her out. She's probably alot more sweeter than the other 2 put together and a nicer person.