When to ask if their feelings have changed?

[unknownfuture]

If the BU wasnt nasty, when if ever is it right to ask if their feelings have changed?

 

I'm struggling this week, we've been talking recently about the sale of the house and now that we've made arrangements, it's back to just saying hello to each other at work. I'm missing the brief exchanges we had during this contact and want to know if she is as well and if her feelings have changed about us since the break up.

 

It's so hard trying not to ask her. Almost 3 months post BU and not asked her about her feelings since week 7.

 

Do I ask?

[wtm78]

Qns: When to ask if their feelings have changed?

 

Ans: What differences does it make?

[loulou37]

If the BU wasnt nasty, when if ever is it right to ask if their feelings have changed?

 

I'm struggling this week, we've been talking recently about the sale of the house and now that we've made arrangements, it's back to just saying hello to each other at work. I'm missing the brief exchanges we had during this contact and want to know if she is as well and if her feelings have changed about us since the break up.

 

It's so hard trying not to ask her. Almost 3 months post BU and not asked her about her feelings since week 7.

 

Do I ask?

 

I think i would wait fo them to tell me...i would be petrified to ask, i don't think i could handle any rejection.

 

loulou x

[mhowe]

Unless she's hinted at or told you in your conversations about selling the house, I think it's safe to say -- her feelings haven't changed. She is moving on and so should you. The brief contact regarding the house is making you nostalgic about the past, but it is the past.

[unknownfuture]

Thanks, I didn't ask and the immediate urge has gone away.

[loulou37]

well done!! them bloody urges are the worst...i have had so many over the last week, i feel like texting him, then i think to myself, what's the bloody point? it'll get me the same answer i got before and i'm not setting myself up for a fall.

 

loulou x