How long does your BJ last?

[Puck2DaHead]

I have been in a year-long relationship with my girlfriend, and our sex life is amazing! We are always keeping things fresh, exciting, passionate, and pleasurable; however, I'm curious to know if anyone else experiences the same thing as me. I don't know if my gf is just not good at giving blow jobs or if it is normal, but it takes me 30-40 minutes straight for me to climax when she's giving me oral. I'm wondering if anyone else has any experience of their guys taking a longer or shorter time, and I'm wondering how that affects their actual intercourse. I usually last in her about 25-30 minutes with a few stoppages to manage my orgasm, and she orgasms once or twice during that time. I know that her ex-bf would last a shorter time (like 10 minutes) in her, but his bjs only took about that long too.

 

Because it takes me 30-40 minutes to climax from a blowjob, I feel like she is less excited to give me as many bjs as she would give her ex-bf because it took a shorter amount of time and less discomfort for her.

 

Does anyone have any input or help for us? What are your experiences?

[Fudgie]

About 10 minutes for me, when I'm trying to make him cum. If he wants a longer BJ, then I don't suck as hard as he won't cum.

 

He usually gets about a 5 min BJ prior to intercourse though, but I have to remember not to "try" too hard because if he gets too turned out during those 5 min, he won't last long during sex.

[hers]

If you last longer during sex, then you'll probably last longer during oral. My husband takes forever to climax sometimes with both but I've had guys last a lot less with me. Think it depends on the guy b

[Smile12]

My guy usually takes about 10 minutes, or less with a BJ.

 

He can last up to 30 minutes from sex, he just controls it himself. If he's getting too close to having an orgasm then he'll pull out for a second to calm himself down.

 

You should honestly praise your girlfriend.. because I would NEVER give a 30- 40 minute BJ! That would just plain SUCK.

[Puck2DaHead]

My guy usually takes about 10 minutes, or less with a BJ.

 

He can last up to 30 minutes from sex, he just controls it himself. If he's getting too close to having an orgasm then he'll pull out for a second to calm himself down.

 

You should honestly praise your girlfriend.. because I would NEVER give a 30- 40 minute BJ! That would just plain SUCK.

 

Nice pun! But honestly, yeah, I definitely thank her, but I have a feeling it is her technique that needs to change a bit. She has an issue with her jaw that makes it hard for her to suck, so she says. When she is eating or opens her mouth to a certain point, it makes a clicking sound. The doctor says that she might grind her teeth at night, which is causing this. When I asked her if this happened with her ex-bf, she said it did not. I'm sure that is probably the case? Maybe? Maybe not? But I do know that it has a lot to do with not feeling as good as doing other things.

[Puck2DaHead]

If you last longer during sex, then you'll probably last longer during oral. My husband takes forever to climax sometimes with both but I've had guys last a lot less with me. Think it depends on the guy b

 

What do you do to your husband that works for him? Maybe I can give her suggestions.

[Miss Firecracker]

I can give one that lasts about two minutes. It involves teeth.

[hers]

What do you do to your husband that works for him? Maybe I can give her suggestions.

 

I complain and he tells me to stop

[Alezia]

Do you have additional jaw insurance for this poor girlfriend if she actually goes at it for 40 minutes per session? OUCH!

 

I don't think I would diminish the frequency, but honestly, I wouldn't give you a BJ that lasts that long.

[Dragunov-21]

I can give one that lasts about two minutes. It involves teeth.

 

My first gf was of that school, but think 20 seconds.

 

I still have the scar T.T

[Ariel85]

Dude, if you require a 40 minute BJ to get off, you should be glad she's still opening her mouth at all. Or is able to.

 

Do you think it's her technique? Or is this just how you are?

 

If it's technique, then for the love of chocolate, PLEASE communicate with her on how to get the job done efficiently. If it's just how you're built, then I wouldn't expect her to blow you to orgasm daily.

[hers]

Is it essential that she makes you come by bj alone?

[SpottiOtti]

What if she got you really turned on in other ways, then got you most of the way there by hand and finished you off orally? Have you tried that?

 

Is her technique not working for you? Have you had problems in the past with this, with other girls?

[Miss Firecracker]

My first gf was of that school, but think 20 seconds.

 

I still have the scar T.T

 

I'm not talking about the edge of the teeth, just the front surface. Top front teeth, smooth sliding motion on under side of him. It's a little like I'm brushing my teeth and into the gum area. It's a fine art...believe it.

 

This is why I will never post a photo of myself. I would never feel free to express these things.

[Dragunov-21]

Ah, my mistake; I thought you were being facetious

 

And I understand completely >_>

[Miss Firecracker]

Ah, my mistake; I thought you were being facetious

 

And I understand completely >_>

 

Oh, that would be wrong.

 

I can see why you misunderstood me.

[Fudgie]

I'm not talking about the edge of the teeth, just the front surface. Top front teeth, smooth sliding motion on under side of him. It's a little like I'm brushing my teeth and into the gum area. It's a fine art...believe it.

 

This is why I will never post a photo of myself. I would never feel free to express these things.

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I swear, I have NEVER heard of anyone doing this....it sounds cool! I am going to try it sometime! ^^

[Puck2DaHead]

I complain and he tells me to stop

 

Yeah, that sounds familiar...

[Miss Firecracker]

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I swear, I have NEVER heard of anyone doing this....it sounds cool! I am going to try it sometime! ^^

 

I invented it on my own. I'm sure no one else in history has done it. lol

 

If you do it correctly, you will have a huge bulge coming out the left side of your jaw.

[Puck2DaHead]

Dude, if you require a 40 minute BJ to get off, you should be glad she's still opening her mouth at all. Or is able to.

 

Do you think it's her technique? Or is this just how you are?

 

If it's technique, then for the love of chocolate, PLEASE communicate with her on how to get the job done efficiently. If it's just how you're built, then I wouldn't expect her to blow you to orgasm daily.

 

So, I forgot to explain that she's been having jaw problems for the last year and a half. I noticed that from the first bj. The left side of her jaw clicks sometimes when she's eating, yawning, or opening her mouth (i.e. bj), so she can't really get a solid 10 minutes or so of a good sucking feeling, so I have to think it is her jaw/technique. She wasn't having as much sex with her ex bc she said it wasn't as pleasurable as it is with me, so she would give him oral and it would only take him 10 minutes. She said her jaw didn't hurt at that time, so she was able to give good head. She blames herself for not being able to make me orgasm sometimes and I feel bad that she feels that way, so we either do oral for a little and move on to things that feel better for her and me.

 

I obviously have figured that giving someone a bj for 30 minutes is uncomfortable, so I try to avoid it, but it is still something that makes me feel close to her. I think in the 13/14 months we've been together, I've only orgasmed from a bj with her like 4-5 times because of the discomfort she feels. Her doctor says it is because she might be grinding her teeth in her sleep. She's having that checked out a little. She doesn't think it is TMJ because it never locks up.

 

I think it is a combination of her and me really. Some people on here say it only takes them 10 minutes, but with other girls in the past, I probably am more of a solid 15 minutes. I've tried communicating with her on what feels good, and when she's hitting the spot I tell her, but she can't sustain that movement/motion/pressure too long because of her jaw.

 

I plan on marrying her one day, so I might just have to live with it, which is fine because we make love in the most passionate way I've ever imagined. I really love this girl, so if bjs aren't in the cards, I'm not gonna really sweat it.

[Puck2DaHead]

Is it essential that she makes you come by bj alone?

 

No, it's not essential. Like I mentioned in an above post, I think her jaw is one of the reasons for our problems. The only time that I wish her jaw was okay and we didn't have this problem is when we're looking for a quick release or some risky location or something. I'd love the old, "take you behind the building" or road head or park at night...something like that, but there is no way. If it only lasted 10 minutes, it would be much easier for her to get that look in her eyes and tell me to lean back, you know?

 

...and if it's me, I'll just accept it. It kind of plays well for me when we are having sex because I can last as long or as short as I want, so she usually orgasms 2/3/4 times...and I know she probably loves that WAY more than a 10 minutes blow job to me (especially since I don't really expect her to be down on me for 30 minutes).

 

The other day I went to go visit her at school about 25 minutes away. We only had about an hour, and I picked up some dinner to-go, picked her up from her dorm, and we ate our dinner before her night class at the beach. It was really fun and sexy, and it turned us on, but she didn't even try to go down on me because she thought we probably didn't have enough time, she didn't want to feel rushed (and neither did I...that doesn't help anything), and she didn't want to feel bad if she didn't make me orgasm bc she blames herself (and I've never blamed it on her). We had like 25 minutes, and she would have gone down if she knew it only took 10 minutes or so, but since it takes longer with us, she didn't. Oh well...it was still nice to see her, but that intimacy would have been nice. We just got that intimacy from a good make-out session instead. I'm sure she enjoyed that more than giving me head too.

[sara-pezzini]

have her use her hands at the same time with a tighter grip and just suck the tip, that is what i do because i too have problems with locking my jaw....this way seh should be able to finsh you quicker....

[Puck2DaHead]

have her use her hands at the same time with a tighter grip and just suck the tip, that is what i do because i too have problems with locking my jaw....this way seh should be able to finsh you quicker....

 

Thank you Sara! We already do that, but your suggestion actually sparked an idea of mine, so thank you! When she's sucking the tip, is she moving accross the tip and sliding it down my shaft (just a little bit) or only sucking? Either way, I think we'll play around with that.

[sara-pezzini]

i play around with those two options as well, depending on the mood one time he might prefer one and another time the other....so have fun experimenting....

[tiredofvampires]

You can have TMJ even without the jaw locking up. TMJ is caused often by grinding the teeth, and involves straining the ligaments in the jaw joint. That's what causes the clicking, popping, and for some, pain.

 

It sounds like you have natural stamina, so even a pro might have to take a little longer than with some other man. So it's a combination of her jaw problems + your need for stimulation for a longer period of time to climax. I've "undergone" 30 minute bj's with some men and 10 minute ones with others, so it's partially how they're built, regardless of my technique. Also, it depends on size. One reason I prefer average/slightly below average guys is because it makes for a breeze of a bj -- I can do just about anything without limiting myself. Which makes it a lot more fun.

 

After 30-40 mins, you're getting to a point where her increasing fatigue is proportional to how increasingly strenuously you need it to actually cum, so it's sort of diminishing returns at that point.

 

Sara beat me to it, about the technique, though. You actually don't need to open your mouth as far as it'll go (like with deep throat) if you use your mouth muscles to do most of the work. I've had jaw problems before -- not always -- but in that case, I use more suction, keeping a good seal/grip with my lips as far as I can possibly go without feeling pain/restriction in my jaw.

 

So if she does this with her mouth, she can stimulate you here:

 

and when she's hitting the spot I tell her

 

with her hands and occasionally her tongue/mouth, while keeping the basic rhythm. I've found that keeping a consistent rhythm (after the initial teasing and lighter stuff) is more important than how deep you allow it to go and how far you open the jaw. She should find your "spot" and stimulate it all the way through while working the head/top. Making sure there's a lot of lube (like edible lube, or saliva) to keep whatever she's doing with her hand gliding and in sync with her mouth.

 

Also, if she teases you a lot around the area with her mouth beforehand (inside of the thighs, balls, groin, lower abs, as well as in other erogenous zones that you like (while manually stimulating you), it might take you less time once it comes to the actual bj.