MsMargarita Posted October 25, 2011 Share Posted October 25, 2011 We were friendly with each other for a year now (doing the same course). I really like him but I wasn´t looking for a relationship until recently. I invited him for a party few days ago and we all got insanely drunk and I found myself naked in bed with him (never happened to me before). I said no to sex ( itś not kind of a situation I like finding myself in even though I liked him) and then he confessed he was a virgin. So basically we then talked and kissed for ages. We see each other every day at lectures and we both felt we needed to talk about it and we met up. He suggested we start dating and I was happy about it. I really like him and think we have potential, but I am a little confused: how should I feel about what has happened? It seems impossible to completely deny it, although when we met after that night we didn´t even kiss - it felt awkward..What kind of pace should I go at? I desire him and he wants his first sex meaningless, but now itś kind of awkward cause we are just starting dating but already been quite intimate.. ? Link to comment
Samedy Posted October 25, 2011 Share Posted October 25, 2011 How old is he? If he is admitting that he is a virgin, I would be more inclined to think that he doesn't want meaningless sex. I would assume that he may have said that as not to frighten you. As for the pace, go whatever pace feels right. You're not going to break it... Link to comment
MsMargarita Posted October 25, 2011 Author Share Posted October 25, 2011 Sorry i meant ḿeaningful. ;P Link to comment
Mesemene Posted October 25, 2011 Share Posted October 25, 2011 Talk to him about it, and tell him it's important to you that he let you know when he's really ready, and feels it will be meaningful to him. Kind of hard to go backwards - but you can still date, make a point of going to places that invite conversation and "getting to know" each other beyond the physical. Just keep the lines of communication open, and tell him (if it's how you feel) that you want to make sure when he's ready, that it will be special for him and not feel rushed, or too soon, so he won't have any regrets. Link to comment
Ariel85 Posted October 25, 2011 Share Posted October 25, 2011 he wants his first sex meaningless, but now itś kind of awkward cause we are just starting dating but already been quite intimate.. ? Where do you get this from? Do you realize that if he wanted meaningless sex, he would have tried to nail you that night, not admitted he was a virg, and would not have suggested dating? Despite your belief, he actually seems to be looking for MEANINGFUL sex. Link to comment
Lonewing Posted October 26, 2011 Share Posted October 26, 2011 Where do you get this from? Do you realize that if he wanted meaningless sex, he would have tried to nail you that night, not admitted he was a virg, and would not have suggested dating? Despite your belief, he actually seems to be looking for MEANINGFUL sex. She made that correction, post-post... I think you'll just have to resign yourself to the idea that he could be an extremely important person in your life for a very long time. You already know he's respectful - what kind of man, afterall, sleeps with a naked girl but doesn't have sex? No, I do believe if and when it happens, you'll both be ready for it... Especially if he likes you. Sex does not get any more meaningful than when it's with your number one person in the world. Then it's only a question of when, not if!! Enjoy the ride! You weren't looking and then poof, you found him. Odds are he's been "waiting" for a while now... I don't see many issues here... Link to comment
Ariel85 Posted October 26, 2011 Share Posted October 26, 2011 Oh, gotcha. lol Then what's the problem? Link to comment
MsMargarita Posted October 26, 2011 Author Share Posted October 26, 2011 Oh thanks so much everyone, I feel much more comfortable with it now! Link to comment
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