Need some help

[Username2011]

o make this longgggggggg story short... Me AND my ex of 8 months have(had )great relationship then trust issue formed.. i became the p.i(private investigator ) going beyond to catch him doing things such as going thru his phone hacking into his s**t etc(yes i know all this is to much any man would run for his life)well .. now me and him are broken up....but seem like we cant stop being around each other now ...we hang out ,, do everything as if we were together .. he treats me like a queen ... but when i ask to get back together .. he says we need to take things slow... i am not ready to get into a relationship but , if i do decide it will be back with you .... how do i go about this..

[catfeeder]

I'd tell him that I adore him but I'm walking away while I still think well of him. If he ever decides he'd like to try having a real relationship with you again, he can contact you. If you're still available then, you can meet to catch up. Short of that, you'd like the opportunity to get over him and free yourself to find the kind of relationship you're looking for.

 

This middle of the road stuff just spells doormat--that's not attractive. It's also not an incentive for him to get back with you. Why should he, if he can have the sex and the fun without offering you anything? Skip that.