Should I break up with him?

[katie2]

I've been with my boyfriend for two years and we're perfect for each other--but now that we're college students a two hour flight apart, I'm starting to doubt that I can keep this up. He has no doubts and is one hundred percent committed to making this work, but I've been having a really tough time staying faithful. I want to experience other people right now, but I still love him and ultimately want to be with him. He has made it clear that he is not okay with an open relationship, and that if we break up, it's final. All or nothing. Is it worth it for me to break up with him for the short term satisfaction of hooking up with other people and lose him, or stay with him and torture myself as I try not to hook up with other guys? torn up inside and appreciating the advice.

[DN]

You have laid out the alternatives available to you very clearly - since you understand them so well, I think this is a decision only you can make.

[22n32]

What I'm stuck on is. How can u say u love him and ur perfect for eachother and wanna be with him in the end... But u wanna hook up with other guys? They seem contradicting..

 

My ex and I. Broke up for the same reason.. she wants to explore, live hhookup with guys, but wants to marry me when she is done..

 

Honestly I find it funny.. been broken up 2 months. She still calls to have me hooked in for the future..

 

She pushes me further and further every time she does it. She is selfish for thinking like this..

 

If u love someone. Stand by em. I guess I must be old fashion..

[MK9]

If you can't chose, then put him in the "friend zone," that way you can hook-up with others guys, have fun, fool around. Meanwhile, he can't say that you cheat,because you two are just friends. You still can get support from him, and if things doesn't work out you can always come back. win/win Do with this multiple guys and you will multiply your wins, either that or they will get really angry and...but everything in life involves some type of risks.

[lonelyheart2]

I aggree with 22n32 I don't understand how you can say you love him and yet want to hook up with other people but then maybe that's just me too......I think it would be very unfair to ask him to break up so you can experience other people and then say that you want to be with him forever. You are either in a relationship or you're not.....

[Robert55]

If you truly love him you will not want to be with anyone else no matter how far apart you may be from him.

[11daphnegirl]

My S.O. and I have done a long distance relationship for a couple years (1700 miles apart, about 6 or 7 + hour flights each way). I would never do it again ... It is SO difficult, but if you are with someone who is nearly "perfect" for you, don't take that lightly! Especially someone who is committed to you. My S. O. was committed to me the whole way, but I wasn't. Eventually I broke up a few times to date other people because I also thought I needed more experience and needed to be around more choices. My "dates" with other people helped me clarify my situation better, but I didn't fall for any of the other guys. And not everyone's man is going to be there waiting for you, like mine was, when you want to hook up with other people. My S. O. and I have decided to work on the relationship and get back together. I decided that his commitment and faithfulness to me, and our special friendship, was more important than hooking up with this guy and that guy, but that was my own personal choice and it took me years to realize it. I have to move to be with him now, but that's the price I pay to be with him. Not everyone can do long distance. It's a catch 22 and I know how you feel. If you don't date other people, you might resent him. But if you do, you might lose your current partner who is committed to you. Ask yourself what you really want out of life and what it will cost you to get it. Good luck.