bdbmwer Posted October 25, 2011 Author Share Posted October 25, 2011 guess youre right. oh well there will be a next one. least this brought me closure in a way cause even though my post makes it appear otherwise I really am ready to move on and if were friends so be it. I apologize for not taking your advice like I should have guess we just have to learn for ourselves and now I have. dam.nit the more I think about it youre right she probably wont send it im pissed at myself for not listening to myself when i wanted to tell her no.all the other advice is like oh spark things up again and i guess my logic was oh if im still such a presence then stuff cant possibly work with her new relationship * * * was i thinking. especially after all the posts about regret after breaking NC Link to comment
TomboyMS Posted October 25, 2011 Share Posted October 25, 2011 You'll be fine. Experience is the best teacher. I never listened either when I was your age. Lol. Link to comment
bdbmwer Posted October 25, 2011 Author Share Posted October 25, 2011 I WILL be fine regardless thanks for everyones advice every step of the way. And anyone in my situation who sees this thread please learn from it and dont make the mistakes ive made and have regret think next time she contacts me im going to really make that leap. Im going to tell her out of respect for her new relationship its probably better that we dont talk or hang out. Im also going to tell her friends out of respect for my ex I cant hang out with them at all anymore and remove them all from facebook. I look forward to coming back on this day to let you all know i wasnt a total failure and your words did not fall on deaf ears Link to comment
imonlyhuman Posted October 25, 2011 Share Posted October 25, 2011 hey. just do what makes you happy, and don't do what makes you feel awful. good luck. Link to comment
bdbmwer Posted October 25, 2011 Author Share Posted October 25, 2011 K so I followed through and told her friends I could no longer hang out with them. And my ex did actually end up sending the friend request. Ego would you ignore it or accept it and then restrict access so she can't see anything if you were in my place? And what are your thoughts on most sites recommending that in the event that your ex is in a rebound that it is good to be friendly and be there when their rebound fails versus the opposite when they stay single? That's kind of the whole reason I did what I did because I read that advice. Link to comment
mhowe Posted October 25, 2011 Share Posted October 25, 2011 No, when we say friendly we mean friendly. If we meant hinting about being together and acting sexy we would have said that. Good one. OP --- pretend she's your cousin. Link to comment
SweetSeul Posted October 25, 2011 Share Posted October 25, 2011 I will be seeing my ex for the first time too and I don't know what to do and how to act! I want to keep things light and casual, but would like to be prepared for resistance and coldness from the ex and want to know how I should handle it if ex acts cold? My post is here: We were in a 6 year relationship. B.U. was his idea. We have been in LC, and he has been hot/cold during the times we've been in contact showing that he is concerned and really hopes I'm ok (guilt, I reckon) but can also tell he is keeping his distance. Just want to be prepared for the worst, I guess. How do I act when that happens? Link to comment
AngelAmber Posted November 2, 2011 Share Posted November 2, 2011 K so I followed through and told her friends I could no longer hang out with them. And my ex did actually end up sending the friend request. Ego would you ignore it or accept it and then restrict access so she can't see anything if you were in my place? And what are your thoughts on most sites recommending that in the event that your ex is in a rebound that it is good to be friendly and be there when their rebound fails versus the opposite when they stay single? That's kind of the whole reason I did what I did because I read that advice. i would ignore it for 2 weeks. then see if u want to accept it or not. also keep in mind that ul be able to see her stuff and how much fun shes having! i made the mistake of being fbook friends again with my ex and i got addicted to his posts and obsessive a bit, tore me up. i advise to wait and see, but ultimatly dont accept it! and go NC from now on. until she contacts u then tell us what she says if she does. when u see her in person be nice, even flirt a little, but keep it short. and keep focusing on u and ur self improvement Link to comment
bdbmwer Posted November 2, 2011 Author Share Posted November 2, 2011 thanks amber! I actually started a new thread regarding accepting the friend request. I did end up letting it sit there for quite a while and after a week she ended up taking it back. right around the time she went official with her new guy. She also sent me a text during this period saying "when can I give you your hoodie? its in my car. btw good job getting kicked out of class" at like 3 am. Still sticking to NC though since our meeting and lifes going good! im even talking to a new girl Link to comment
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