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I am married to the love of my life, we are happy and our sex life is great. Recently my wife told me about a fantasy that she has had. This fantasy makes her completely crazy and horny as hell. She wants so bad to watch mw perform oral sex and anal sex with another guy and then return the favor. She does not want to get involved in a threesome, she doesn't even want the other guy to know she is watching. I love my wife to death and I have always told her that I would do anything for her, hell I would die for her. But I never thought she would ask me this. Anyone have any thoughts? Thanks

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Miss Firecracker Collaborator

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Wouldn't that be an invasion of the man's privacy? Is she wanting to film it too? I think it sounds like a risky thing to do, in a lot of ways. Any man that would do this with a stranger could easily end up to be mentally unstable and could get a thing for you. I don't understand why a happily married woman would risk her happily married lifestyle for this. I have to wonder how happy she really is in the marriage.

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offplanet Apprentice

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I think that's asking too much. How do you feel about doing those things yourself? I'm a bit concerned you would agree because you've promised you would 'do anything for her', and 'would die for her', even if you don't like the idea of doing it. I think that would be very disturbing. I hope you feel able to say not to her.

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BrianH46 Apprentice

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Isn't this just a fantasy? She's turned on by the taboo of the act I don't think this reflects how happy she is in the relationship at all. Rather it shows how comfortable she is with the OP. Besides quite a few people on this forum has some pretty kinky fantasies, to be on the safe side though remind your wife that it will stay a fantasy.

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I disagree with many of the posts here.

 

This is about what makes you and your wife happy. She shared a fantasy with you. No, you definitely do not have to do it- but if you are open to it, I don't see the big deal. Everyone has their thing and I say as long as you two are careful and healthy about it... Then whatever floats your boat.

 

This kind of stuff is always going to ruffle people's feathers. I couldn't see myself going through with the scenario but I also wouldn't blame some who did. Again, it's all about what you're comfortable with and the open communication you two share about it.

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regular joe Contributor

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I really don't see how this is any different than when a guy has a girl/girl fantasy. It's not unusal for woman to have guy/guy fantasies (what's good for the goose is good for the gander) even though it is not "mainstream". However OP like others have said, sometimes fantasies are better being left just that. Would you be comfortable making her fantasy a reality? How far you two take it is really between the two of you and no one else. If your not comfortable with it than leave it a fantasy or find another way to make it happen that both comfortable with. I also agree that it shows that she feels comfortable enough with you to share a fantasy that is pretty taboo by societies standards.

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catfeeder Grand Master

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I'd consider pretty carefully whether this fits with my private definition of my marriage vows. Even more carefully, whether this could unravel those vows and erode my marriage going forward.

 

It's one thing to share a fantasy with a partner, it's another to bring someone else into your marriage. You can't 'undo' that once you go there.

 

Worse, watching someone's sex act without their knowledge, I believe, is a criminal offense. Are you willing to commit a serious crime for a thrill?

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annie24 Grand Master

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I disagree with many of the posts here.

 

This is about what makes you and your wife happy. She shared a fantasy with you. No, you definitely do not have to do it- but if you are open to it, I don't see the big deal. Everyone has their thing and I say as long as you two are careful and healthy about it... Then whatever floats your boat.

 

This kind of stuff is always going to ruffle people's feathers. I couldn't see myself going through with the scenario but I also wouldn't blame some who did. Again, it's all about what you're comfortable with and the open communication you two share about it.

 

I agree with nerdyjock. nothing wrong with exploring fantasies (but maybe to be fair to the 3rd guy, he should be told he is being watched).

 

One possible idea for you two to try before going into the real thing - maybe when you are having sex with her, you can tell her about the other guy you had sex with earlier today and all the things you guys did, etc.... maybe that will turn her on as well. could be a safer way to ease into this fantasy of hers, if you're not ready to go out and find the 3rd just yet.

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If you don't want to do it, then don't do it. That is kind of weird, and she doesn't have a right to insist (although it doesn't sound like she's really INSISTING). The really bad part is her not wanting the other guy to know. If you used another guy in this scenario and he thought you were actually attracted to him but found out you were just doing it because your wife was secretly watching, he might get really pissed off.

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LDRohnos Enthusiast

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It's great that your wife feels so open with you to share a fantasy of her's like this one...usually something like this someone takes to the grave with them without even thinking there's a chance in hell it would happen.

 

Just a few things though... You're going to have to actually want to do something like this. Do not do it just for her...this isn't like dressing up as Elvis and hopping in the sack...she's asking you to have intercourse with another man while she secretly watches.

 

Personally I couldn't do this no matter how much I 'loved' my wife/girlfriend, I'm not nearly open minded enough for it. If you do decide to do it I would make it clear to the guy that your wife wants to watch.

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soul_soother Contributor

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Are you into guys? I think thats the first question.

 

I agree with that its good that shes open about her fantasies, I often have fantasies of sharing a gf and such and it turns me on a whole bunch. But, would I ever actually do it or allow it, hell no. It would be one thing if I was with someone I didn't plan on marrying or married to. But, often there are stepping stones into larger situations, if she wants you to this, eventually she'll want you to do more with another man or gosh knows. Eventually we all want more after we've done what we've wanted too many times. there are ways around it, sometimes I'll get my kicks off by talking about it in our dirty talk and it gets me going like it actually happened.

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abitbroken Grand Master

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thank her for being comfortable enough to share her fantasy with you. Tell her you are glad that she feels that she can trust you enough to share those things. and say no more about it than that. If she presses, tell her that you love her and only her. You would feel uncomfortable doing it with someone other than your wife, and that's where you draw the line.

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