I can't move on.....

[glegend]

As a 34 year old, this is exactly what I would say. You are both too young to think that this is it. There will be others - there is A LOT more out there for you both.

 

This too shall pass.

 

I know there is plenty of fish in the sea. I know this will pass, just not fast enough. I really though it was going to work. I should of known better. I just wasted so much time with her and I have nothing but a broken heart to show. It's sad to say that when she moved to brampton from sauga, I thought we would break up but I was proven wrong. Now I was proven right. However, its not the moved that caused the break up.

[In the Dark]

I think in G's case it's not about knowing there are more females out there.

I think it's more about loving someone, only to go through the break up process again and feel the pain he is going through yet again.

 

Certainly there are a lot of females out there, but having to go through the arduous 'iffy' parts is what causes grief.

 

Is this forever?

Or is this just another fling because there is a whole life head being in the 20's and may as well, experience relationships with numerous people while I can regardless of them being a great match for me or not.

 

G isn't like that from as long as I have known him.

He wants one.....and want to stay with that one, regardless of what age is supposed to allow.

 

Correct me if I'm wrong G.

[glegend]

ITD your totally right dude.

 

Since the first day you met me, it always been me just wanting on girl who can stick by to the end of time. If not end of time, something long term. I'm serious about life and what I want.

 

Like you said ITD it's not about knowing there many other females out in this world. Its the pain of the broken heart and actually being in love with someone.

 

Each and everytime I get close to a female, especially getting into a relation the forever vs fling bit pops in to my head. I've had so many flings and thing that are serious which turn out to be flings in the end. I'm practically ruined, I've become so insercure. Well ITD know sI do have insecurities, but each and everytime I go through a break up it ruins me even more and makes more insercure about myself.

[glegend]

Another thing I forgot to mention is I get thought of not being good enough into my mind. No matter what the girl could tell me, I feel its always my fault. There has to be somethign wrong with me. I choose to not believe its them because some of the girls I've dated in the past have ended up with boyfriends within a month of being broken up.

[imonlyhuman]

Another thing I forgot to mention is I get thought of not being good enough into my mind. No matter what the girl could tell me, I feel its always my fault. There has to be somethign wrong with me. I choose to not believe its them because some of the girls I've dated in the past have ended up with boyfriends within a month of being broken up.

 

that's how we all feel. "there's something wrong with me". and you know what? that may be true. but there's something wrong with everyone. you, me, her. everyone. no one is perfect, believe me. and we usually feel that way because we were the ones that were dumped. if we were the dumpers, we don't feel that, even if it maybe true. maybe there are things you need to improve about yourself. but that's not going to guarantee that once you do that, you'll have the loving relationship of your life. people are compatible or not, you just have not found the girl you're fully compatible with. that's what dating is all about. every relationship is destined to fail until we find the one that doesn't.

[In the Dark]

Another thing I forgot to mention is I get thought of not being good enough into my mind. No matter what the girl could tell me, I feel its always my fault. There has to be somethign wrong with me. I choose to not believe its them because some of the girls I've dated in the past have ended up with boyfriends within a month of being broken up.

 

That's the way I felt.

There seemed to be no real reason to her behavior and aggression towards me.

Everything I said which had the potential to be twisted into something negative was something she would respond to.

Anything which has nothing potentially manipulated she would not respond to.

This in turn left me re-evaluating myself.

 

But the truth was, she wanted to make sure, everything I said and did regardless of intentions were something to upset her in some way or another because she wanted to make it look like she had every reason for flaking out on me.

 

When the cloud cleared, when I stopped hurting and blaming myself, I realized that I was not a bad person.

What I was doing was perfectly fine.

 

She just twisted things I did so it made me feel like I was the reason why the relationship ended.

 

So what I'm trying to say is, whatever she wanted was more than what you could give and probably the next person.

Sometimes peoples expectations of someone are far too much, leaving them jumping from person to person.

Leeching them of whatever they have that they want, until it becomes of no interest.

Sometimes what someone has to offer is not enough after a while.

Want fulfilled.....off to the next want.....and if you don't have it.....off to the next person who does.

[glegend]

that's how we all feel. "there's something wrong with me". and you know what? that may be true. but there's something wrong with everyone. you, me, her. everyone. no one is perfect, believe me. and we usually feel that way because we were the ones that were dumped. if we were the dumpers, we don't feel that, even if it maybe true. maybe there are things you need to improve about yourself. but that's not going to guarantee that once you do that, you'll have the loving relationship of your life. people are compatible or not, you just have not found the girl you're fully compatible with. that's what dating is all about. every relationship is destined to fail until we find the one that doesn't.

 

I will agree iwthyou not everyone is perfect. We all have our flaws. Thats why we are humans.

[glegend]

I had a similar thing with my ex too. I'd text her something in return to somethign that she'd text me and then she'd call me back acting like I'm making her seem like a bad guy. Sounds like she wanted to make herself feel better by making you feel like crap.

 

I'm still waiting for my cloud to clear and have no more pain and no more blame. AS much blame as I do for the relationship going I have thoughts of not being good enough. I've dated and been talking to failr amount of women, like overall, but I've never been good enough for them to want me around for any long run.