Racial preferences when it comes to dating

[Shudder]

im sorry but that just sounds so messed up.[/quote

 

So would it be better if I were to date someone I am NOT PHYSICALLY attracted to ( in this case, Asian men ) for the sake of being "politically correct"? I didn't say that I found them ugly or unattractive. I stated, most specifically, that I, personally, am not attracted to them ( note the underline on the word " to " ). I find many Asian men handsome but the attraction is not there for me in order to date them romantically.

 

 

not finding them physically attractive is the same thing as calling them ugly. i've never heard someone describe someone has physically unattractive but say he/she is hot at the same time. if you're willing to discount 1/3 of the worlds population as ugly then more power to you. but it just sounds very small minded.

[wannadoitright]

These sort of threads always run the risk of rubbing people the wrong way. Of course we all want to hear that our race/ethnicity is in high demand and every other race in the world wants to date our race...hehehe.

 

I find it weird when someone says out in the open "I am not attracted to this race because they are blah blah blah". No one gains or learns anything useful from that so it's fine to keep it in your head where it belongs.

 

I have even seen on dating sites profiles that state explicitly that they date one particular race. Seriously? Is that information best suited for general consumption? Whatever happened to e-mailing the race you like or responding exclusively to the e-mails of the race you like. I want to bet there is a strong correlation between this sort of social unawareness-tactlessness and emotional maturity.

[Minx2012]

 

 

not finding them physically attractive is the same thing as calling them ugly. i've never heard someone describe someone has physically unattractive but say he/she is hot at the same time. if you're willing to discount 1/3 of the worlds population as ugly then more power to you. but it just sounds very small minded.

 

That's not true. Here's an example : I find Brad Pitt to be a very handsome man. He has what science would say a " perfect face " bc of the symmetry. He has those piercing blue eyes, blonde hair etc etc. However, I do not feel the strong need to fantasize about him in a sexual way that most women have done so, since he broke into the Hollywood scene. Also, to be VERY precise, I did not say " I do not find Asian men physically attractive ". I said, " I am not physically attracted to them ". There's a difference that goes beyond the semantics. It is shown by my Brad Pitt example.

[Shudder]

 

That's not true. Here's an example : I find Brad Pitt to be a very handsome man. He has what science would say a " perfect face " bc of the symmetry. He has those piercing blue eyes, blonde hair etc etc. However, I do not feel the strong need to fantasize about him in a sexual way that most women have done so, since he broke into the Hollywood scene. Also, to be VERY precise, I did not say " I do not find Asian men physically attractive ". I said, " I am not physically attracted to them ". There's a difference that goes beyond the semantics. It is shown by my Brad Pitt example.

 

i do not see the correlation between finding asians unattractive and brad pitt.

[StrawberryYogurt]

Aren't you the guy on my other forum thread that I started that talks about wanting to date ONLY Asian women, will only date Asian women bc you are Asian? If I have racial self-hatred, then what do you have? Pure, blatant racism?

 

No, it's called wanting to date someone with a similar background for compatibility. It would be racism if I said I'm not attracted at all to other races.

 

I do not mean to pick on you, but there is something wrong with excluding your own race from your dating pool.

[Thorshammer]

Oh please, there is nothing wrong with not wanting to date your own race/ethnic background. Tastes vary, thats what makes us human, we are not programmed machines that think in a hive mentality because of race.

[pinkelephant]

Easy solution. Date other Asian guys like the ABC types. But no, you're too fixated on white guys.

 

Never said I was opposed to it. But like I said, I don't know many asians because of where I live. The only asians I like are from Asia and I don't wanna deal with green card type of things.

[meoww]

These sort of threads always run the risk of rubbing people the wrong way. Of course we all want to hear that our race/ethnicity is in high demand and every other race in the world wants to date our race...hehehe.

 

I find it weird when someone says out in the open "I am not attracted to this race because they are blah blah blah". No one gains or learns anything useful from that so it's fine to keep it in your head where it belongs.

 

I have even seen on dating sites profiles that state explicitly that they date one particular race. Seriously? Is that information best suited for general consumption? Whatever happened to e-mailing the race you like or responding exclusively to the e-mails of the race you like. I want to bet there is a strong correlation between this sort of social unawareness-tactlessness and emotional maturity.

 

I totally agree! Psychologists have noted that we sometimes strongly reject things we are secretly attracted to. So I think at times it boils down to an unconscious insecurity and a need for control. It's much harder to accept that there are potential sexual rivals all over the world rather than simply in your in group.