Ryguy786 Posted October 21, 2011 Share Posted October 21, 2011 Long story short - Met this girl last Thursday (She's Japanese). We had a lot of fun downtown, seemed very flirty. (I speak japanese and she speaks english so we had a lot to talk about). She also talked about how she really wanted a boyfriend laughing and joking and all. I invited her to a house party on that saturday. She came over, we had lots of fun, we made out. She came studied with my the next day on campus at the library. It was okay...didn't really know how to properly say goodbye so didn't push the topic. Essentially I have been trying to hang out with her, and when we do hang out it seems really fun. But in text messages she barely replies, seems cold, and never initiates contact. It seems like I have to try very hard to hang out with her in person, and when we do it seems totally fine while hanging out. We went to get food at the campus lunchroom and such a couple times. I invited her out to dinner and to go drinking afterwards - she initially said it sounded good. Later on I texted her asking what time worked and she told me "Hmm, I guess ill answer that tomorrow". She rarely responds to my texts that are kind conversation wrap-ups "Well, have a nice night, cya tomorrow then" and such. She ended up texting me last night "Sorry I can't go tonight, I need to do homework and I want to talk with my ex boyfriend on skype....sorry". and I said "well, okay, good luck studying, maybe another time!" and she says "Have fun going downtown as if I was going and inviting her along.... It seems like she treats lots of outings like friendly outings while I'm trying to push for more - furthermore....generally you don't say things like that to people you are interested in.... Am I wasting my time pursuing things? I thought I was in after we made out.....but now it seems like I'm on the back burner, she still has feelings for her ex, she likes the attention but not really much after that... It's weird that she makes long term seeming hang out plans (Come to my b-ball games on tuesdays! and making a list of slang she learns from me) but then at the same time, rarely seems excited to hang out...despite having a good-seeming time when together (and doing the little flirty things. Come up behind you and poke you when your not looking to say hello, etc...) very mixed signals What should i do? Stop contacting her and give her some space and hit her up later? Link to comment
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