Why do I get upset if GF runs into an EX at Event?

[Mustang4life]

Should I be upset/why do I get upset?

 

My GF of 4 months who loves me is going to a football event at a bar on Sunday with her best friend. She told me that her ex most likely be there since that is where she met him and he goes there a lot. Her best friend and her have been going to this weekly football event for 4 years now during the football season. Basically, it is a bar that shows every football game that is being played on Sunday and people dress up in jerseys and stuff. Last January she met a guy there and they dated for 2 months. She said there was zero connection, they only kissed, and she broke up with him. She told me as a heads up that she might run into him at the event and I should not worry (since I will not be there). She said he will most likely try and say Hi to her. She said I have nothing to worry about.

 

So why do I worry so much about this ex potentially saying Hi to her? Should I be bothered about this? I didn't tell my gf that I was, I just agreed with what she was telling me and thanked her being so open.

[Bunney]

No, don't be worried, let it go. Worrying about something you cannot control anyway leads to nowhere. What do you think is the worst that could happen?

[Edmund Exley]

Jealousy is a very unattractive trait. Self confidence and trust are considered very attractive. You choose which is best for you to feel.

[Edmund Exley]

Keep in mind this, if she had wanted to be with him, she would have stayed with him. If she didnt want to be with you, she wouldnt be with you.

[Mustang4life]

Keep in mind this, if she had wanted to be with him, she would have stayed with him. If she didnt want to be with you, she wouldnt be with you.

 

Yep that is what I was thinking.

[Mustang4life]

Jealousy is a very unattractive trait. Self confidence and trust are considered very attractive. You choose which is best for you to feel.

 

I just feel like he might try and talk to her and bother her. I trust her 100%.

[april15]

She's an adult, with a friend, in a public place. Relax, everything will be as cool as your gf wants it to be. If he is being overly aggressive, there are tons of ways for her to get rid of him, nicely or not so nicely.

[sidehop]

I just feel like he might try and talk to her and bother her. I trust her 100%.

 

If you trust her you wouldn't worry; but do you think this insecurity is coming from the past? She sounds like a very honest and upfront girl. I wouldn't worry a thing.

[Edmund Exley]

I just feel like he might try and talk to her and bother her. I trust her 100%.

 

Why get yourself all worked up and upset about things that may not happen, and things you cant control?

 

Either way, if he does try to talk to her, shes the one that controls the result, so part of you doenst trust her 100% or you wouldnt be worrying about this.

[Edmund Exley]

Dont let other people live rent free inside your head.

[Longview01]

I think you are safe with this one, she is being very honest with you about her past relationship and about the fact he might be there.

[hers]

What's the harm if he talks to her?

[Mustang4life]

What's the harm if he talks to her?

 

I guess none

[oldenoughtoknow]

She's being upfront about it. I don't know what more you can ask for. If she wanted his attention (or more), you wouldn't hear a word from her about it. There's nothing to worry about - she's a big girl who I'm sure is very adept at telling a guy to go away.

[hers]

I think it's noble of her to tell you that it's a possibility he will be there. She seems honest which is good.