Miss Kitty Posted October 21, 2011 Share Posted October 21, 2011 My boyfriend and I just had sex for the first time and we had a little problem. During sex, he kept, well slipping out of me. We were using a condom. I haven't had sex with a condom before so I don't know if that's why. I am naturally very lubricated so I wonder if that with the slipperiness of the condom could have caused it? I've never had this issue before and he said that he hasn't either (although he's only had sex once before). Can anyone share an experience that may help me figure out how to prevent this from happening again? It really made romance difficult. Link to comment
hers Posted October 21, 2011 Share Posted October 21, 2011 I thought you guys were already having sex? Link to comment
Mesemene Posted October 21, 2011 Share Posted October 21, 2011 Usually it comes down to position - and how much you're wriggling around. Even after being experienced - moving in sync doesn't always happen. Maybe try with you on top to maintain control over the angle - in my experience, the girl feels the angle shifting faster than the guy does, and it'll leave you room to compensate and adjust. It'll still happen sometimes - enthusiasm can do that!!! Link to comment
greywolf Posted October 21, 2011 Share Posted October 21, 2011 It's an unrealistic expectation for sex to be perfect the first time. It might take a little bit of practice to get used to each other's bodies, and practice is fun anyway. Link to comment
Miss Kitty Posted October 21, 2011 Author Share Posted October 21, 2011 I thought you guys were already having sex? We've had oral sex, finger play, and many other forms of sexual interaction, but things kept getting in the way of doing regular sex. Link to comment
Miss Kitty Posted October 21, 2011 Author Share Posted October 21, 2011 It's an unrealistic expectation for sex to be perfect the first time. It might take a little bit of practice to get used to each other's bodies, and practice is fun anyway. Oh yeah, lots of practice, lol. Since this is only the second time he's ever had sex and the first was two years ago with someone else, I guess he might still need some practice too. Link to comment
Miss Kitty Posted October 21, 2011 Author Share Posted October 21, 2011 Is he very tiny? *blush* Well, he is a bit short. Don't get me wrong, I love his penis, it's fun to play with and taste and such, but yeah, he is a bit small. I hope it's not that though cause we're planning on getting married and I really don't want sex to be like that all the time. Everything else we've done together was great. We did a little bit of anal tonight and it stayed in better, but that was my first anal experience and it was difficult for me to get past the pain. After a bit it felt good, while still hurting, and then it just hurt again, so I don't know if we want to do that instead on a regular basis. I want to have regular sex with him too. Link to comment
Miss Kitty Posted October 21, 2011 Author Share Posted October 21, 2011 Usually it comes down to position - and how much you're wriggling around. Even after being experienced - moving in sync doesn't always happen. Maybe try with you on top to maintain control over the angle - in my experience, the girl feels the angle shifting faster than the guy does, and it'll leave you room to compensate and adjust. It'll still happen sometimes - enthusiasm can do that!!! We tried a few positions, including me on top. No matter what position it seemed that it kept coming out and he had a hard time finding his way back in sometimes. We were kind of rushed, I don't know if that was part of it, but yeah, the only position that was even a little bit better was doggie style which I happen to not like very much at all. I have very weak arms due to a physical condition, so I can't keep myself up for long. Link to comment
Ariel85 Posted October 21, 2011 Share Posted October 21, 2011 If he's that short, then yeah, certain positions are always going to make him fall out, because as soon as he starts thrusting, he's out. There are certain positions that are better for lesser endowed men. Honestly, I've never kept a guy around who's been small (I'm sexually shallow - guilty as charged), but the way I'm personally built, doggy always hits me deeply, so even a smaller guy feels like a king among men. So, try doggy, being on top so you can control the movement and more grind on him that bounce... And when you do doggy, you can be lying down fully on your tummy, rest on your chest, your elbows, kneel with your torso straight...lots of options that won't put pressure on your arms. Link to comment
Fudgie Posted October 21, 2011 Share Posted October 21, 2011 You're just going to need to practice. I've had sex with a couple men before my boyfriend and they were all "short" and popping out was a problem. My boyfriend now is 7'' and we haven't had problems, aside from the initial pain. However, with previous boyfriends, we were able to stop the "popping" out problem simply with practice and finding the right positions. Slipperiness isn't a problem. I haven't used a condom but I'm also naturally lubricated. It's the length that can cause it, not the lubrication. The first couple of times will be awkward but you should get it. If you can't hold yourself up with your arms during doggy, then lean forward on some pillows and prop your butt up in the air. Link to comment
LDRohnos Posted October 21, 2011 Share Posted October 21, 2011 Ironically, my first sexual partner I never had a problem with this...she would always say that it was too deep and she could feel it pushing up against her "belly"... Another partner I had it would ALWAYS come out if she was on top. To be honest it was simply because she would lean too far forward, which was how she felt it was the most pleasurable. Another possible reason is if he starts to lose his erection. Link to comment
PaintWithLight Posted October 21, 2011 Share Posted October 21, 2011 I thought you guys were already having sex? I thought the same. OP - Is this the same fiance that last month you and him were looking for a threesome? Maybe it is just nervousness because things are new and you are still getting in sync. Link to comment
Fudgie Posted October 21, 2011 Share Posted October 21, 2011 Yeah I'm really confused about this as well. You guys haven't even had sex and you were already discussing a threesome? Were you a virgin prior to sleeping with him? Link to comment
tinybob Posted October 21, 2011 Share Posted October 21, 2011 work on positions. i am also "short" so certain positions make me slip out if i am not careful. he'll learn to stay in! good luck Link to comment
annony Posted October 21, 2011 Share Posted October 21, 2011 work on positions. i am also "short" so certain positions make me slip out if i am not careful. he'll learn to stay in! good luck Yep! He'll figure out how far "out" he can pull without slipping out. If he gets used to smaller thrusts it will slip out less. I've also found that if I angel my hips up it makes it easier. Like tip my pelvis up towards the ceiling. This isn't as uncomfortable as it sounds, especially if I put my legs on his shoulders. Link to comment
Miss Kitty Posted October 21, 2011 Author Share Posted October 21, 2011 Yeah I'm really confused about this as well. You guys haven't even had sex and you were already discussing a threesome? Were you a virgin prior to sleeping with him? Well we just had trouble with getting the opportunity to have sex for a while. I was having health issues that got in the way and we had a hard time finding privacy, but yes, we were talking about that already, and no I was not a virgin before him. Link to comment
Miss Kitty Posted October 21, 2011 Author Share Posted October 21, 2011 work on positions. i am also "short" so certain positions make me slip out if i am not careful. he'll learn to stay in! good luck Thanks! That makes me feel better to know. Link to comment
OptomisticGirl Posted October 22, 2011 Share Posted October 22, 2011 It happens. Too much natural lubricating and all, pulling out too far... Link to comment
Miss Kitty Posted October 22, 2011 Author Share Posted October 22, 2011 It happens. Too much natural lubricating and all, pulling out too far... I am naturally very wet, so how do I prevent it slipping out from that? It was really frustrating because it happened over and over. Link to comment
Snowy Posted October 22, 2011 Share Posted October 22, 2011 It'll get better once your guy gets used to how far he can pull out when thrusting. Link to comment
OptomisticGirl Posted October 22, 2011 Share Posted October 22, 2011 I am naturally very wet, so how do I prevent it slipping out from that? It was really frustrating because it happened over and over. It just happens really. I have never found a way to 'prevent' it. Just take shorter strokes is the only thing I can say but if it slips out just pause, stick it back in, and continue. Link to comment
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