heartache1 Posted October 20, 2011 Share Posted October 20, 2011 Hey there, My 10 year relationship came to an end nearly 3 weeks ago. Man, it's been so hard. He told me on Thursday he didn't love me, he moved out Saturday and was on a date on Sunday....though he swears he only met her the Saturday night. Since then, he's been on more dates, deleted all my pics from FB and added loads of young girls, he's out constantly and hardly ever calls his kids. He's changed completely and it has thrown me into a state of turmoil. I am about to start my third week of being signed off from work, I have anti depressants that aren't working and I have lost a stone and still can't eat properly. Initially, (before I joined this forum) I was hounding him. Texting, begging, pleading, crying....you name it. Then, I had 3 days of no contact....where I'd asked him not to contact me. He then contacted me and started being a bit nicer, said he'd missed me recently etc, found me attractive. I've been very limited contact since then and now he's asking me on a date....but from another post in the Breaking Up forum, it seems that this date is to boost his ego, for me to hand hold him til he finds someone else, or to keep me on the back burner - he hasn't made a step towards reconciliation....just said that he likes me as a person, but can't separate me from the kids, so would like to date me to see if there's anything there. Anyway, my main question is, how can you really do NC when there's kids involved. It's basically impossible right? He has set days to see the kids, but little things like texting him to remind him to take them somewhere, or to do something, or him texting me to say he's running late - all of this is annoying, because I really would like to start NC. He hasn't been calling the kids until now, but I've told him he needs to start, cos it's too hard for them....so that's fine, we can set a day and time for that and I can let them answer. But in general, the amount of contact we have regarding the kids, means that I can't ever have proper NC, and it's really annoying. Some tips on how anyone else has coped would be useful? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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