Gave up what would you do

[Grap_drink]

Well it's been 4 years since I've been in a relationship or even went on a date with a girl and believe me when I say I've tried it all. It got so tiring that I gave up for a while now and every now and then it hits me on how lonely I feel I am. I'm young, 19, and incredibly confused. I go to school full time working on my B.S in Structural Engineering, work full time and make over $2000.00 a month (that's pretty good to me * if you pay only $600.00 rent and college is paid for), training to be an air force officer, live on my own in a nice place, with a roommate and just whole bunch other things not to sound arrogant but proud of. Sadly even with all these accomplishments it depresses me that I can't even get to one date with a girl. Even all my friends are confused about it; they kind of look at me like I'm hopeless. I made a lot of friends that are girls and they all say I'm cute, funny, and that other stuff I'm thinking has to be a lie because this honestly doesn't make any sense. I'm doing the whole wait for her to come around thing and to be honest I had closer luck when I actually approached women. So what's a guy to do if nothing works? I thought about it so much now that I thought woman look for guys like me or atleast have an interest to want to hangout. Really I'm asking what would you do in this, I've tried hard to play it off like it doesn't bother me to people but it honestly does. *

[Dubb]

I think you need to keep at it.. When you say you approach girls, how often? Can you remember every approach you have done or are there so many you don't remember? I would take the girls at their word. you could be cute and funny but you're lacking that attraction they need. W/O knowing you it's hard to say what your problem is. From reading your post it sounds like you are frustrated..which probably shows even if you don't realize it. So things I would be conscious of when around girls is your banter (do you tease them in a playful manner?) You should really banter with everyone. Being non needy.. Make her work for your attention. How physical are you with girls you like? That's pretty important. Not in a creepy way but you know, hugs, high 5's, touching in safe areas's. don't over do it or become creepy but don't be afraid to touch people. You'd be surprised how well this works. Just be an all around awesome guy. It starts with the inside tho. Just b/c you have thing you think a girl should desire doesn't mean she does. Think about no material things you want to introduce to a females life.. When I see a girl I like I don't think she's going to love me b/c I have such and such... I think, wow she looks amazing, I want to get to know her on a deep level and make her laugh until she cries. Never approach a girl with the mindset of what you can take from her.. It's always what you can give. I rambled on and tried to touch on a few things.. Hope at least one of my suggestions help.

 

P.S. Really work on your confidence..

[Grap_drink]

You did give good advice I appreciate it. I'll be honest most of the things you describe to me I do naturally because I can be sort of a smart ass; in a funny way not repulsive. When it comes to having physical contact I'm usually getting close, holding their hand, looking at them in a flattering way. Girls usually respond in a shy nervous matter like they say stop you're making me "blush" but they like it. First impression and what I do isn't what I notice the problem is. Keeping them interested for more than two weeks is Several girls we would try to see each other and it would be hard to but they just let the fire die since we aren't able to. They know the kind of guy I am in person but girls always lose interest in me which is confusing and frustrating. Maybe it's the way I text when in reality people that look through them so you aren't saying anything wrong. I don't know I'm lost.