Move back near ex

[Lifelesson]

I moved late last winter out of state for a job I didn't have to take. I just wanted the career advancement. In the process, I broke up with my girlfriend because I wasn't planning on living anywhere near where we were living in the future and I didn't see how the relationship could work because I didn't think we'd been together long enough to ask her to move for me. It seemed like the logical choice to me but she was heartbroken. I felt and feel terrible about it.

 

She has since started dating another guy. I have dated others as well but not as seriously as her. I regret breaking up with her terribly as there was no problems in the relationship, but I didn't see how it could ever develop into more. We kind of got back together for a couple days but I still couldn't commit. Well, I have since decided if it's possible, I want to move back to where we were living but at the same time I am still in love with her.

 

I want to tell her if things don't work out with the new guy I want to try again. I'm meeting other people myself but nobody else compares. She was the first girl I've dated seriously, and I just had a lot to learn about a good relationship. At the time we were dating she said she didn't know how she could live without me, so I don't know how she could go on and date one of my friends.

[Snowy]

At the time we were dating she said she didn't know how she could live without me, so I don't know how she could go on and date one of my friends.

 

I can't count the amount of times when people have said this and go on to break up a short time later.

 

If she has moved on, then leave her alone and move on also. Maybe AFTER if she leaves the other guy, you can try to reconcile (if you haven't found someone by that time).

 

There are plenty of fish in the sea buddy. Never believe a specific person is "the one".

[catfeeder]

What do you intend to do about your job?

 

It makes no sense to become jobless for an ex who's with someone else.

[Lifelesson]

I'm working on getting a job back in the area for my own reasons, as I've decided that's where I want to live. I would like to at least be friends, but the fact is I would always want more I think. I feel like such an idiot.