1 month NC and ex calls.. arghhh

[22n32]

Well its been 5 weeks since i started NC.. i never called her then i had a missed call from her today...

 

i was hoping not to hear from her ever or a long time...

 

i dont know what she would want.. prob to ease her guilt.. keep me around. i dont know..

 

being a decent human being wonder if i should call back to see whats up.. i have no hope or even want to get back with her..

[Triplell]

It has nothing to do with being a decent human being, but rather your own curiosities. If you don't want to get back with her, than there is no reason to call her.

[DylanNotorious]

Call her if you want, but then you break all your hard-earned NC.

 

She probably just has that "itch" to call you. Don't call her back. You will go right back to square one.

[sadchick83]

Ignore the call. It's hard, but for all we know it is just a test to see if you will return the call. Unless she leaves a urgent message, don't bother. She might say "oops, it was a butt dial." Or just to ask you some generic question.

This will go on for a little while...a call every month or so, then there will be nothing.

 

What happened with the bank woman???

[22n32]

Call her if you want, but then you break all your hard-earned NC.

 

She probably just has that "itch" to call you. Don't call her back. You will go right back to square one.

 

im not gonna call her back.. if she wants she can call again..

 

but i know me not calling her will send her a message that im ignoring her for good and i dont care about her.. i do care..

 

its funny how little things like not calling back could put a wedge in us forever..

[sadchick83]

No, it will show that you have pride in yourself. She knows where to find you and she could leave a message.

[DylanNotorious]

Ok well she didn't leave you a message to call her back - so that's her own fault on that one.

 

But if she does call you again, you are allowed to talk to her if you wish. Sometimes you have to talk to people to see what they want. But I think in your case, let her try calling you again, and then take it from there.

[22n32]

No, it will show that you have pride in yourself. She knows where to find you and she could leave a message.

 

You really think it will show that??

 

i never called or pursued the bank girl

[sadchick83]

Awww....all that advice and nothing.....

My ex has called me about 7 times in the last few months...usually just a missed call. How does he not know I am in an underground parking lot and never got the missed call?? If she actually wants you, she will find you.

If he really wanted me, he would text and say please pick up or something.

 

Im proud of my ability to not pick up. Dylan is absolutely right. You will regress if the call doesn't go as you wished.

This way, Im over it in a few hours....

 

 

At least keep your pride.

[mhowe]

If she had anything, and I mean anything to say - she would have left a message. "Missed call" puts in on you. Don't take the bait.

[AvonRepus]

See,curiosity killed the cat.

 

Whenever I had a missed call from him I would call back . It was always bad bad,just plaind bad for me. I felt awful.I felt like a booty call without the booty. How easy for him was to reel me out. That was in the beginning. The first month passed and I stopped returning calls. Sometimes I was taking a nap or watching TV and there it was -his name on the ID. It felt good ignoring it.

 

If she has anything to say ,she will find a way to say it.

Don't pursue it.