Getting over someone

[Autumnleaves]

Hi all

 

If you state that you're over someone does that mean that you no longer love that person?

[chai714]

Not necessarily. That means you have gotten "you" back and are able to put the situation into perspective.

[Autumnleaves]

I find it difficult to comprehend. Me personally if i'm over someone then there is no feelings left whatsoever, I couldn't care what they do or who they do it with. If there is still feelings of love then I see it as not being over that person.

[Deciduous]

Hi Autumnleaves,

 

I see it as 'No longer grieving for the person.' An absence of pain. Having made my peace, I may experience subtle feelings of love and affection on the rare occassions they cross my mind.

 

So yes, I think you can both love some-one and be completely over them. It's the absence of pain that signals you are over them. Not the absence of love. Having said that I too have ex's who I have little respect for and would cross the road to avoid, to this day.

 

I have both types. The ones I feel random affection for and the ones where I grimace at the memory. I'd say I'm over all of them as I don't experience real hurt about those situations any more & they never cross my mind without an external prompt.

 

Deci

[Autumnleaves]

Hi Deci

 

It's not something I've really thought about before. it was just my ex said to me few weeks back that he was over me when I ended it. One of the reasons I called time on the relationship was I didn't feel he loved me that he was just putting up a pretense.