What to make of this?

[Goodfellas]

We dated 4.5 years but broke up 2 months ago. Friday she defended her thesis and thus would have a Masters education. I was proud of her, no doubt, because I know how hard she worked for 2+ years.

 

Since our breakup was amicable, and a text is too impersonal, I felt a congralutaory e-mail was in order. I sent it Friday morning and received this (Monday morning):

 

Hi!

 

Thank you so much for your message! I greatly appreciate it, especially that I read it a few hours before defending I defended Friday afternoon and I was sooooo nervous but once I got up there it went way too smooth haha I had prepared so much with Lois the day before that I felt good about my presentation and possible questions. I'm so happy it's over and that it went the best it could have gone!

 

I also am so glad that you were a part of the thesis process with me. Your continual help and support was so important to me, more than I think you know. So thank you!

 

I'd love to hear how you are also doing . What's new?!?!

Take care,

[her nickname]

 

That last line throws me off and I don't know what to make of it. Why does she care??

[LDRohnos]

She was just being nice.

[Imthatguy]

Yup she was just being friendly. You're reading into it too much

[GingerMinx]

Why do you? You sent her an email congratulating her, she was simply returning the same friendship.

[Goodfellas]

Yup she was just being friendly. You're reading into it too much

 

I tend to do that.

 

I suppose it was that she would LOVE to hear how you are doing is what got me.

[No1]

You were nice and thoughtful, she was being the same. You are looking too much into every single line, looking for a hint and you found a hint on the last line.

Well, sometimes people do throw out the love word, you read too much into it. I love pizza.. doesnt mean I want to marry it tho.. ha ha.

[Imthatguy]

You were nice and thoughtful, she was being the same. You are looking too much into every single line, looking for a hint and you found a hint on the last line.

Well, sometimes people do throw out the love word, you read too much into it. I love pizza.. doesnt mean I want to marry it tho.. ha ha.

 

But if it was tangible would you?

[No1]

But if it was tangible would you?

 

 

No, its still only pizza. Throw a nice beer in there and Im listening...ha ha

Listen, I have done the decifering and decoding every word and letter looking for something, some hope of what we want to see. You want to see a window of getting back together, but you want that one hint to say its okay.

We all have done it, but we all have misread the same signs. Its better to just keep things lite in conversations and let them show their hand. She knows you want her back. Give her time and space to realize if you are the one she wants. If you are the one, she will make it known to you.

[Goodfellas]

You're right, I'm stretching to find evidence that she still wants me or us.

 

I don't know if she knows I want her back, it was just a congratulatory email, nothing too emo. What I will do is reply back with minor details about what's new?!?! to remain civil post-break up. I won't ask how she's doing out of fear of reading something I'm not prepared for.

[dabbledave]

You're right, I'm stretching to find evidence that she still wants me or us.

 

I don't know if she knows I want her back, it was just a congratulatory email, nothing too emo. What I will do is reply back with minor details about what's new?!?! to remain civil post-break up. I won't ask how she's doing out of fear of reading something I'm not prepared for.

 

IF (big if; think about it long and hard first) IF you decide to reply, keep it short and upbeat and focus on really positive things. Then if she asks for more info ... stay cool and resume NC. Be a mystery man!

 

DD

[Goodfellas]

Email composed and ready to send off. Kept it positive without getting into much detail.

 

Thanks DD