Thwarted Posted October 16, 2011 Share Posted October 16, 2011 my husband asked for a separation not to long ago, i would like to say it was out of left field, but all the signs have always been there. Married for 9 years together for almost 11, it was never "we" for him - it was always "me" and I was left with questions and alone. He was always doing his own thing and I was always last on his list. I have felt lonely for a while. But now all he tells me is that he is unhappy and wants to be happy, that is the only explanation - he never has tried to work on the relationship, and is refusing to even speak about it now. He has been trying to refinance the house to pay me and have me leave. I will always want to work it out... but he will not. If he cannot re-finance the house we cannot separate because the bills that we have together are too high for us to live apart. I am lost scared lonely and a whole other host of emotions..... I am trying every thing I read about turning things around... I have been angry for a long time. I don't know what to do....give him what he wants? if he can't refinance I still have to live this way until our financial circumstance changes (pay off bills and get credit scores back up) Link to comment
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