Mr Man Posted October 16, 2011 Share Posted October 16, 2011 Long story short. Broke up just over 2 months ago (she dumped me HA!) She acted really selfishly and childishly but NOT maliciously. When I'm done with someone, I'm done. No going back, her loss. I've been in NC for about 6ish weeks, now I think. I was respectful and made it clear that when it's over there is no going back and, in other words, made it clear that we will never interact again. By the way, she started seeing a co-worker not even 2 weeks after we separated. She calls every bloody day. Calls and calls and calls. My healing is going superbly! I was very hurt at first and now I'm moving on well. I'm a real advocate for strict no contact for healing BUT BUT BUT I'm getting to the point where I just want to e-mail her to tell her the truth about the relationship and that it's OVER. No going back. I want to do it in a nice way, take the high ground, yet again, but make it ridiculously clear that I don't want her, never will again and firmly tell her that she must stop trying to reach out. What do you think? She's pathetically persistent. Link to comment
NCMaster Posted October 16, 2011 Share Posted October 16, 2011 I think the high road/best way is to continue as is with NC. I take it you are not answering your phone, if you are stop doing it. You will maintain the mutual respect and continue with your progress this way. Good luck!!! Link to comment
Mr Man Posted October 16, 2011 Author Share Posted October 16, 2011 I think the high road/best way is to continue as is with NC. I take it you are not answering your phone, if you are stop doing it. You will maintain the mutual respect and continue with your progress this way. Good luck!!! Thanks mate. Nope, definitely not answering my phone, but I feel a wee bit annoyed that I have to screen my calls and that she's got the nerve to be calling me. I think it's interfering with my wonderful healing a bit, too! Don't get me wrong, I'm starting to feel really good again, but I start to feel a bit fed up when she calls and it makes me think about her more too. I'm at the point where I want to send this e-mail. It's already written. If anyone has a very good reason why I shouldn't send it, please speak up! Link to comment
NCMaster Posted October 16, 2011 Share Posted October 16, 2011 Send it to a friend and if you wish even post on the forum Nothing will be gained! I assume she has your email and you probably have a voice mail. If its that important she will get the message accross. I think you are doing great! Keep with the NC, its obviously working for you. The moment you send that email, you will lose all this power you have now. Right now, you are good. Keep yourself here. CheerS! Link to comment
Mr Man Posted October 16, 2011 Author Share Posted October 16, 2011 Send it to a friend and if you wish even post on the forum Nothing will be gained! I assume she has your email and you probably have a voice mail. If its that important she will get the message accross. I think you are doing great! Keep with the NC, its obviously working for you. The moment you send that email, you will lose all this power you have now. Right now, you are good. Keep yourself here. CheerS! thanks again. All I'm trying to achieve is her fecking off! i don't give a hell about 'power'! What power? I don't get it! She has NO power over my future existence, none. Also, if I send it - I have proof I have told her to get lost. If she continues to be an idiot, I'll just get a legal order or something. job done. Seriously, I don't understand why it's a bad idea... I don't want her... All I want is for her to GO AWAY! EDIT: I don't care if she has an important message or not. There is nothing to talk about except she needs to get a life and burger off! Link to comment
NCMaster Posted October 16, 2011 Share Posted October 16, 2011 Haha Brilliant. Then you have nothing to lose. I guess it becomes so easy to assume that everybody wants them back. Send the email! Link to comment
picklefluffy Posted October 16, 2011 Share Posted October 16, 2011 I think you should send the email, then she knows where she stands. Ignoring her might just seem like playing games, and wouldn't you want to know if someone didn't want to be with you? Make it clear then go NC again! Let us know what happens! Link to comment
Springs Posted October 16, 2011 Share Posted October 16, 2011 She is obviously in pain at the minute and can't accept it's over. Unfortunately I briefly went through a stint of calling my ex and texting a lot. It shattered me that he couldn't even respond with something...anything...even if it was 'look it is over you need to move on'. That could be all she needs to let go. I think if you make that clear to her then go NC again, that's the way to go. She will be hurting and people act crazy stupid when heartbroken so cut her a bit of slack. Link to comment
Ms Darcy Posted October 16, 2011 Share Posted October 16, 2011 She is obviously in pain at the minute and can't accept it's over. Unfortunately I briefly went through a stint of calling my ex and texting a lot. It shattered me that he couldn't even respond with something...anything...even if it was 'look it is over you need to move on'. That could be all she needs to let go. I think if you make that clear to her then go NC again, that's the way to go. She will be hurting and people act crazy stupid when heartbroken so cut her a bit of slack. I agree. An email stating where you stand won't hurt. Link to comment
iBroken Posted October 16, 2011 Share Posted October 16, 2011 I agree with the others. Send her an email or text to explain that its over and therefore you are not interested in any contact. Link to comment
Lonewing Posted October 16, 2011 Share Posted October 16, 2011 Let her know plain. If it doesn't stop, get a new number. If she comes around, get a new residence, a new city, a new life. Soemtimes that is what it takes to escape your past. Link to comment
Mesemene Posted October 16, 2011 Share Posted October 16, 2011 Thanks mate. Nope, definitely not answering my phone, but I feel a wee bit annoyed that I have to screen my calls and that she's got the nerve to be calling me. Have you had the number long enough that changing it would be a huge headache, or is that a possibility? From experience, calls at 3am or other times, even unanswered, get really frustrating, especially after having been dumped. Link to comment
Mr Man Posted October 17, 2011 Author Share Posted October 17, 2011 WHOOP WHOOP I THINK IT WORKEDDDDDDD! NO CALLS! I feel elation! State of mind people! - A broken heart is one of the worst feelings anyone can experience at the beginning but rationalise and act properly you you're set! I cried, I felt miserable, but I faced up to the good and bad truths about myself, her and the relationship. There were rough times, realllllllllly rough times, ups and downs, but I am healing!!! Love it! I'm not deluding myself, I'm not fully healed yet and there will be more ups and downs, but the water tastes sweet, the air I breathe feels pure and existence is beautiful! I'm so proud of the way i stood my ground throughout this experience. Self-respect, universal dignity and compassion. I love you all. Healthy healing to you all- no regrets, only valued experiences. State of mind. Mr Man Link to comment
SorrowandPain Posted October 17, 2011 Share Posted October 17, 2011 Congrats Mr. Man. I only wish that I too will heal as well as you have. Link to comment
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