Cynder Posted October 16, 2011 Share Posted October 16, 2011 So, I have to make this quick... I parted ways with a very good friend of mine who I've know for ten years... He recently came into a lot of money. I won't give an exact amount but it's over a quarter million. He is a generous person and he bought a lot of gifts for people. He bought me a Crate bass amp as an early birthday present. (My birthday is in November, he bought it for me a month or so ago.) I used it a couple times, but it was always at his house. The reason for this was just that I didn't think I could carry it up to my apartment by myself and due to his health problems I knew he wouldn't be able to help me. Plus, him and I would always jam when I was over there. I can practice at home without an amp, but when I play with someone else, I need the amp. I knew it was safe over there, so I just left it at his place. Now I have no contact with him at all. I've been debating on whether I should ask if I can come and get it. I personally am leaning toward no... He bought it and it's at his place. I'm really not entitled to it, even though it was given to me. But other people I know think I should ask for it just on principle. I have a jacket of his at my place that I'm sure he wants back. I thought about contacting him and just saying something like "Hey, I still have your jacket. I can bring it to you and pick up my bass amp." Another friend of mine is trying to start a band and he has asked me twice to play bass for him. I can't do that without an amp, so I do have a practical need for it right now. Idk... what do you all think? Would it be nasty of me to ask him for it? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
anya1607307555 Posted October 16, 2011 Share Posted October 16, 2011 Personally, I wouldn't feel comfortable asking him for it. I would return the jacket and see if he brings up the amp. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
catfeeder Posted October 16, 2011 Share Posted October 16, 2011 I'd mail the jacket and skip any idea about the amp. If having one is important to me, I'd save the money to buy a used one or something. It makes no sense to say to someone, "It's no longer a good idea to have you in my life, but can I have that thing you bought for me?" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cynder Posted October 16, 2011 Author Share Posted October 16, 2011 Catfeeder, I didn't say that to him. He ended the friendship. To me it really makes no sense to buy something so expensive for someone, then terminate your friendship with them. idk... that's just me though. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
catfeeder Posted October 16, 2011 Share Posted October 16, 2011 Catfeeder, I didn't say that to him. He ended the friendship. To me it really makes no sense to buy something so expensive for someone, then terminate your friendship with them. idk... that's just me though. If you already have your own answer, why ask? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cynder Posted October 16, 2011 Author Share Posted October 16, 2011 Why not ask? This is a forum where people aski for advice. Its my understanding that my thinking on most situations is pretty unorthodox. I may be leaning toward not asking him for my amp back, but so many of my friends are telling me I should ask fpr it back. I was curious what a bunch of strangers think. That's all. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Honey Pumpkin Posted October 16, 2011 Share Posted October 16, 2011 Nope, I definitely wouldn't ask for the amp. Ask for the jacket and see if he mentions it, otherwise let it go, be the bigger person. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Batya33 Posted October 16, 2011 Share Posted October 16, 2011 Nope, I definitely wouldn't ask for the amp. Ask for the jacket and see if he mentions it, otherwise let it go, be the bigger person. Agree with this. The inheritance is irrelevant to the issue IMO. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cynder Posted October 17, 2011 Author Share Posted October 17, 2011 Nope, I definitely wouldn't ask for the amp. Ask for the jacket and see if he mentions it, otherwise let it go, be the bigger person. Do you mean offer to give the jacket back? You said ask for the jacket, but the jacket is at my house. It's his. Sorry to question it, I just am making sure. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cynder Posted October 17, 2011 Author Share Posted October 17, 2011 Agree with this. The inheritance is irrelevant to the issue IMO. I only mentioned the money because I figured I should give an explanation as to why a friend would buy something so expensive for someone out of the blue. I mean yea, he said it was for my birthday, but when he bought it my birthday was over two months away. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Honey Pumpkin Posted October 17, 2011 Share Posted October 17, 2011 Do you mean offer to give the jacket back? You said ask for the jacket, but the jacket is at my house. It's his. Sorry to question it, I just am making sure. Yes, sorry - give the jacket back! But I don't think you should ask for the amp. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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