LDRohnos Posted October 15, 2011 Share Posted October 15, 2011 Why does fate do these things to me. I'm going along on my nice day and go through my closet to find a winter coat and I found "the box". The box with our memories and all the little things she gave me over the course of our relationship. As soon as I saw it I went into a dark place... It was like it could have been in a horror movie. Yeah, then I spent the next 15 minutes thinking about her. Ugh! Damn you box! I would have went in and moved it but I'm seriously afraid to touch it... Link to comment
Rob1000 Posted October 15, 2011 Share Posted October 15, 2011 My (her) box is in the attic. I saw the other day. I didn't care for it. It's almost 3 years. You'll be here someday too! Be kind to yourself. Link to comment
LDRohnos Posted October 15, 2011 Author Share Posted October 15, 2011 I'm very nearly there....90% of the time I never think about it/her. But every once in awhile it's like a freight train hits me. Link to comment
Acrylamide Posted October 15, 2011 Share Posted October 15, 2011 Yeah it's pretty rigged. Sometimes it feels like these thing purposely make an appearance to make us feel worse when we least expect it. Just the other day I found a shredded piece of paper I had thrown in a old Cheez-It box when I was clearing my room. I didn't think it was anything until I put the pieces together. It was an old library reserve slip that she used to check out a book when we used to study together. It felt like I got hit by a truck. I started to remember the moments when she checked out that book.. then came a mountain full of memories that scaled off that. It makes me feel so pathetic that I keep reminiscing when she obviously doesn't care. Put that box somewhere so you never encounter it. Let us find peace. Cheers. Link to comment
lavenderdove Posted October 15, 2011 Share Posted October 15, 2011 Why are you hanging onto the box? Is she in your life anymore? Relevant to it? All that box is doing it tying you to the past and tying you to PAIN so you don't need it. And once you find a new love, you don't need some other ex's things hanging around in your life. I know it is hard, but make a statement to yourself... she is gone, it is over, so why have the old bones of your former life hanging around to haunt you? If there's anything valuable in that box, sell it or give it away. If it's nothing of value, just chuck it. Who needs to get dragged back into the past or any pain over the breakup? You need to be looking forward, not back! Link to comment
Mellie Posted October 15, 2011 Share Posted October 15, 2011 I don't think there's anything wrong with keeping the box. For now, I would put the box in a place where' you're not going to stumble upon it. Then, some time from now when you're all healed, when you do stumble upon it, you'll wonder why you kept all the sentimental crap, cinema tickets, birthday cards, what have you. But there maybe stuff you don't want to bin. Say it's got pictures of the two of you and the places you travelled together - they're shared memories - you can't rewrite your history and some day you may not feel the same way about it as you do now. Link to comment
LDRohnos Posted October 15, 2011 Author Share Posted October 15, 2011 Why are you hanging onto the box? Is she in your life anymore? Relevant to it? All that box is doing it tying you to the past and tying you to PAIN so you don't need it. And once you find a new love, you don't need some other ex's things hanging around in your life. I know it is hard, but make a statement to yourself... she is gone, it is over, so why have the old bones of your former life hanging around to haunt you? If there's anything valuable in that box, sell it or give it away. If it's nothing of value, just chuck it. Who needs to get dragged back into the past or any pain over the breakup? You need to be looking forward, not back! I totally agree with you and honestly I forgot it was even there! It totally shocked the hell out of me when I saw it. Hey if anything it showed me that I still have some regrets or *something* I'm still wrestling with up in the ol cabesa. I don't think there's anything wrong with keeping the box. For now, I would put the box in a place where' you're not going to stumble upon it. Then, some time from now when you're all healed, when you do stumble upon it, you'll wonder why you kept all the sentimental crap, cinema tickets, birthday cards, what have you. But there maybe stuff you don't want to bin. Say it's got pictures of the two of you and the places you travelled together - they're shared memories - you can't rewrite your history and some day you may not feel the same way about it as you do now. Yeah I don't think destroying it is a good idea. Granted if I'm ever tempted to rummage through it I don't think I would handle it in the manner that you're describing...maybe one day I can! Today is not that day...not yet! Link to comment
Mellie Posted October 15, 2011 Share Posted October 15, 2011 Yeah, I'm talking about way up there in the attic, right at the back where you're not going to find it for years. And you'll take it out, find mostly junk and wonder "WTH was I thinking?". Link to comment
Moonchill Posted October 15, 2011 Share Posted October 15, 2011 Did you open it? Don't get that out! It's like pandora's box. I just put on "Pandora's box" on mine so when I do end up finding it again.. I might just have a laugh about it Link to comment
LDRohnos Posted October 15, 2011 Author Share Posted October 15, 2011 Open it? I couldn't even go near it Link to comment
anonjen Posted October 16, 2011 Share Posted October 16, 2011 The box is terrible. I went over a year and through 2 moves without opening the box. But then this time of year hit, something happened with Facebook and hometown ridiculousness, and in a spiraling depressing night I figured, "what the hell, I'm already upset at rock bottom." It didn't help. However, I didn't fine a nice present he had given me that I never used because it was too painful and a reminder . I use the bag everyday now . As for the rest of memory lane, I packaged it back up and don't have the desire to look at it again. It'll get easier. I promise. Link to comment
LDRohnos Posted October 16, 2011 Author Share Posted October 16, 2011 Ironically I wear the watch she bought me for my birthday almost every day....for some reason that doesn't register though. Must be the cardboard. Link to comment
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