cauchemar Posted October 15, 2011 Share Posted October 15, 2011 I met a great man and we really hit it off. It's been months and we still talk regularly. We've both agreed that the way we communicate with each other is different from how it is with anyone else. Basically, we just "go" together really well. The problem is, he has a very hectic life. He is always busy and doing something, leaving me to go for long periods of time without getting the chance to see him. This is not okay with me.. I believe that if a man really wants to be with his lady, he will make time, whether he is truly busy or not. Am I wrong for thinking this way? Should I just get out of it, even though things between us other than this are really good? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SpottiOtti Posted October 15, 2011 Share Posted October 15, 2011 Well, I think it depends on what makes his life "hectic". Can you elaborate? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DN Posted October 15, 2011 Share Posted October 15, 2011 I don't think you should leave him without first trying to fix the problem. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cauchemar Posted October 15, 2011 Author Share Posted October 15, 2011 SpottiOtti - On top of his full time job and his DJ residency at a club, he is helping his friend with his radio station. That, and other various things that tend to come up. It seems he just always has something to do or somewhere to be. DN - I've spoken to him about it.. Nothing got better for a bit but one day I felt as though something might have clicked. He suggested that we hang out Wednesday, as he stated that he's trying to make time because he thinks I'm worth it and of course I agreed. However, Wednesday night came and circumstances disallowed anything from happening, as per usual. Back to square one. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Generation Posted October 15, 2011 Share Posted October 15, 2011 Some things just can't be ignored. I'm pretty busy a lot of times too. I'm in a group of performers, and we gotta be in top shape, in sync, just everything's gotta be perfect for the show. We put on several shows, and the better we are, the more people will hire us as well. I can't ditch them, they need me and we're a team, and we make good money from it. I'll make time for my gf, but only if time can be spared. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SpottiOtti Posted October 15, 2011 Share Posted October 15, 2011 It sounds as though he has legitimate reasons for being busy . . . But you have a right to date someone who is less busy and can make more time for you. Only you can decide whether the time you have with this guy is worth the time you don't, or if you need someone who can be more there for you and act accordingly. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cauchemar Posted October 15, 2011 Author Share Posted October 15, 2011 I know, I definitely don't doubt his busyness. He is a truthful, respectable and overall great guy, which is why I've tried my best to push past this problem. It's just a tad difficult, however, as sometimes I don't feel as though he really is trying his best to maybe spare a bit of time for me.. Strange, considering how great the time we do spend together always is. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SpottiOtti Posted October 15, 2011 Share Posted October 15, 2011 Do you find yourself initiating contact a lot? Or does he keep up his end? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cauchemar Posted October 15, 2011 Author Share Posted October 15, 2011 Some days it's more so me, others it's him. In the end, it's about half-half. Lengthily conversations don't usually take place on a daily basis but we do leave each other small messages or just have quick "hello"s and such regularly. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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