Co Worker

[chocapss]

I'm in a serious rut here guys...

 

We've worked for the same company for 3 years, he's white, 41, I'm black 39. I am physically attracted to him and have been from the first time I spoke to him at our annual thanksgiving dinner party in the conference room. I felt something, not sure what it was but it sent chills through me... Anyway, he's stayed in his corer and I've stayed in mine... we say hi hello in the hallways yada yada yada...

 

So in July, he sent me an email: "you look hot today, just saying " I sad thank you and eventually he asked me out for a drink. Cancelled on me the first time, the second time he had to leave early to tend to sick relative butthe 3rd attempt, we went out for a drink after work at a local bar. He spoke only about work at the bar, which was fine, it's something we have in common... On the way home, we walk for a couple blocks and said goodbye. First he shook my hand them he kissed me on my cheek. (I literally melted but tried extremely hard not to let my excitement nd desire for more show). I txt him to let him know that I got home safe and he said that he would like to got out again and not talk about work. It's been a week since either one of us have said anything to eachother, via email or face to face at work. I really, really like him but I want to find out if he likes me too. I'm thining that he's hesitant not only because I'm black but because we're co-workers also. So now what?

 

Any suggestions guys? I'm definitely single and he is too. I'm feeling this guy, think about him all the time, how can I know if he's thinking about me to or wants to get to know me more...

[annie24]

welcome to ENA. I'm less concerned about the race and co-workers issues, but more than he's flaked on you and you haven't heard from him regarding another date. kind of strange....i wonder if he is dating multiple women, or why you haven't heard from him.... ??

[chocapss]

we work different shifts... he starts work an hour before I leave. finishes at 4am. he did ask me out on another date thesame night we met... Should I just see what happens when we do go out on the second date? the first 2 flakes were genuine, he's a decent guy...

[chocapss]

i think that he thinks that i'm not interested because i haven't given much indication that i am interested in him at all. waiting to see his indication that he likes me first. Good angle? or could lead to never knowing...

[SpottiOtti]

Maybe he's thinking what you're thinking . . . "Is she really interested? Would she be okay with us working together? Is the fact that I'm White gonna get to her after awhile?"

 

What have you done to show him that you're feeling him?

[Mesemene]

I txt him to let him know that I got home safe and he said that he would like to got out again and not talk about work.

 

What was your response?

[chocapss]

That's just it... At the end of the date when we were walking back to the train station, he asked me why I'm not married... I told him that I"m not looking for anything committed right now and that I don't see me getting married any time soon. It was a moment where I just said the first thing that came to mind, like I wasn't prepared for the question. Now I'm thinking that he thinks that I'm not interested... How can I fix this? Do you think I should be the one to initiate the next date? Especially as he txt me the same night asking if we can do it again and I said it'll be on me (he paid for the first date)

 

Seems a little petty and teenagerish but I really do like this guy I guess I'm scared to show him that I do. I don't want to give anything away until I see signs from him...