He thinks I shouldn't drink at all and if i do he wants to monitor me?

[justinfan12]

I don't know whether it is me that just feels ashamed that I could act so dumb.

I drank too much I guess (4 shots) I'm not used to drinking and I just did it just to try it out to see if I would like it not. big mistake. I was falling everywhere and I could barely walk. I needed somewhere to stay because my parents had the gates Locked at a certain time and I did not want to make a commotion.

 

So I called my boyfriend. He was okay with me staying over. however when he seen me he was very disappointed. I tried very hard to walk properly, but I couldn't walk. He yelled at me and told me never to get drunk again and how stupid I was (he didn't call me stupid but he was pretty pissed) I really was trying to stand up and each time he placed me down I would fall back down. He forced me into the shower and sprayed cold water on me. And then he put me on the bed and told me to stay there. I fell off the bed and that's when he lost it. He kept asking me "What did you drink? Who gave you alcohol? Don't ever drink again you are scaring me." I said I had 4 shots 2 of tequila and 2 of crown royale, i think this made him pissy even more because he thinks my friends influenced me to drink.

 

We had sex too. And he said I was a different person, that I was crazy and wild and he couldn't control me. He asked me why I was like that when I was drunk. Now that I am sober he tells me he from now on if I ever drink he prefers me to do it when he is around either at his place or when we go out, because he wants to "monitor" what I drink and how much I drink, because he thinks last night I was uncontrollable. Im not used to drinking and I don't really like that I am able to be who I really want to be(am) when I'm drunk.

 

Is he going a little too far with this though? Wanting to monitor what I drink if I do drink?

[DylanNotorious]

Lay off the booze and you'll be sweet.

[Ms Darcy]

Why are you with a guy who you clearly have so many fundamental questions about? This is thread number 6 and counting ... I'm not judging ... I am just wondering.

[LDRohnos]

You are not ready for a relationship.

[justinfan12]

Lay off the booze and you'll be sweet.

 

It was one time. Its a common social activity I don't think it's a crime to drink.

[Firiel]

It seems that every day you post a thread that presents your boyfriend as (at least) borderline controlling, but then you insist he's not... you really need to reconcile the image of him that you present here and your mental concept of him.

 

Should you have had that much to drink? No, not if you were falling over. BUT almost everyone who drinks makes the same mistake once in their life. I'm not sure why he's yelling at you, spraying you with cold water, and then having sex with you. That seems a little strange to me.

[DylanNotorious]

No it's not a crime to drink.

 

Why do you ask questions whether what you do is right or wrong. You already know what's right and wrong because you always have your answer ready. Lay off the booze means just don't drink so much.

[annony]

without comparing this to your other threads, I'd say he's overreacting.

It can be upsetting to see someone you care about in such a state. I've been the designated driver enough to know that being sober with drunk people is frustrating!

However, it's a temporary frustrating, because you know that those people will be back to normal the next day anyway.

I can see why he'd be taken aback, but wanting to control you is a bit too much.

When my BF drinks when I'm not around, I do like to make sure he has a safe ride home, but that's the extent of my "rules" for his drinking.

[blueidealist24]

Well, getting that drunk was wrong and silly but almost everyone does that at least once, if not many times.

 

Your boyfriend is way too controlling in general, as per your other posts, and while he should be concerned he freaked out a bit too much about this situation. It's like he wants to monitor everything you do (judging from your other posts), not just your drinking, which is worrying. Honestly, his controlling nature toward you is worrying me A LOT and is a HUGE red flag. Sometimes it's controlling today, abusive tomorrow.

[justinfan12]

It seems that every day you post a thread that presents your boyfriend as (at least) borderline controlling, but then you insist he's not... you really need to reconcile the image of him that you present here and your mental concept of him.

 

Should you have had that much to drink? No, not if you were falling over. BUT almost everyone who drinks makes the same mistake once in their life. I'm not sure why he's yelling at you, spraying you with cold water, and then having sex with you. That seems a little strange to me.

I guess we had a little too much to drink everyone was passed out and there was no way I was staying at some place.

 

He was telling me everything that happened cause I needed clarification on how not to act anymore. Apparently I was so out of it that the only way to wake up me was to put in the shower for a few seconds. Just embarrassed that he saw me like that. What seems strange? That we had sex? How is that strange?

 

Anyway that's not my question nobody here is answering my question.

I drank once, and now he doesn't trust my friends, since they "didn't take care of me" so now he doesn't want me to drink. I honestly dont know the limit for my body size. Drinking is a fun social activity for me but do you think he is crossing the line?

[hers]

Weren't you waiting to have sex?

[hers]

How old are you?

[annony]

I guess we had a little too much to drink everyone was passed out and there was no way I was staying at some place.

 

He was telling me everything that happened cause I needed clarification on how not to act anymore. Apparently I was so out of it that the only way to wake up me was to put in the shower for a few seconds. Just embarrassed that he saw me like that. What seems strange? That we had sex? How is that strange?

 

Anyway that's not my question nobody here is answering my question.

I drank once, and now he doesn't trust my friends, since they "didn't take care of me" so now he doesn't want me to drink. I honestly dont know the limit for my body size. Drinking is a fun social activity for me but do you think he is crossing the line?

I believe I answered your question. Page back a few posts.

 

Another question I have for you....

Drunk people pass out. Passed out people are hard to wake up. This is normal. Why would he be putting you in the shower to wake you up instead of just putting you to bed?

[LDRohnos]

Weren't you waiting to have sex?

 

lol. Good catch. Yeah...... If this person isn't a troll then I'm just waiting for the other shoe to drop.

[diamond78]

C'mon...the first thread this person posted a few days ago stated how she was already on birth control. Yet a thread that was posted yesterday was about how her doctor just put her on birth control and how the BF was upset about it. Her stories don't match up at all...

 

I'm just saying...

[RedDress]

I also think it's completely icky that he had sex with you that night. I mean... if you were falling all over the place... if you were passing out and he had to put you in the shower... if you were falling OFF the bed and couldn't walk... that's... rape! Yup. Drunk people can't give consent. So - even if you were tearing his clothes off - it's completely wrong of him to have sex with you in that state. And I don't know why he would want to if he was "disgusted" with you. It's just a disturbing state of mind (for him) to be in to decide to "connect" with you when you can't even connect with your feet. He should have been in caretaking mode - not "hey baby" mode. Ick.

 

And monitoring you (for anything)? Controlling. You are an adult, not a child. It's irrelevant if you did something stupid. You make your own decisions. Another ick.

 

Don't get me wrong. I DO think it's wise for you to stay off the booze... but I think that should be your decision and not the result of "monitoring".

[Firiel]

He was telling me everything that happened cause I needed clarification on how not to act anymore. Apparently I was so out of it that the only way to wake up me was to put in the shower for a few seconds. Just embarrassed that he saw me like that. What seems strange? That we had sex? How is that strange?

 

I find it strange that he was so angry at you that he was yelling and then was totally up for a round of sex with a girl who was so completely out of it she had to be sprayed with cold water to be woken up... especially when he knows that you like to be conscious before being intimate (as per your sleeping thread). I would feel like I was being taken advantage of, personally. And I thought you were waiting to have sex too?