shelbymustang_fan Posted October 14, 2011 Share Posted October 14, 2011 I"m just looking for thoughts on the topic, as it has recently started to intrigue me. The people here seem to be from average backgrounds....and seem to have great advice. Anyway, I am recently married, and my wife has never had a very strong sexual desire...she would be happy just cuddling all the time and rarely has desire for doing anything beyond that. I on the other hand have a strong desire for sexual activities and exploration. I usually orgasm almost everyday whether it being with her help, or on my own, and I enjoy it. But I have wondered if it would be more intense and pleasurable if I could go for several days or a week between orgasms, but, like most guys, I simply don't have the will power to make it that long. I have very subtly started to introduce this idea to her as follows. During our honeymoon, (she was on her period of course) I told her that I have been getting excited (our word for orgasm) too often, and that it takes a lot of my energy, and that it should be saved for her. I told her that I want her to control how, how often, and when I get excited, and she agreed to give it a try. She agreed that she should be the only one allowed to pleasure me, and that I should not be allowed to do so. So our little GAME began, and yes we treat it only as a game, nothing strict or serious. We set minimum restrictions for the game. for starters that we will have sex no less than twice a week, and that she would allow me to be excited one other time during each week. It will be up to her when this happens in each 7 day period. This started about 2 weeks ago, and she is kind of playing along. She will take authority and actively participate just before bed each night, but it is all but forgotten about during the day. I was hoping and trying to get her to take an active role during the day too ... even if it be that she teases or reminds me of the rules and that she doesn't want me to break them... but so far, I can't get her to participate much...only just before bed. Anyway, she said she likes playing our game, and that it does appeal to her. I'm just wondering if I should go as far as suggesting we get a chastity belt with a key to enhance this game or if that sounds totally crazy? Part of me thinks that it would help keep her mind more focused on being the dominant player in the game, and even keep her more focused on our sex lives in general. I also think it would help me not cheat...because this does take a tremendous amount of will power. Any opinions or thoughts would be appreciated. Link to comment
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