GabrielS Posted October 14, 2011 Share Posted October 14, 2011 Hi all, glad I found this site. Ok, here is my story (I'll make this shorthand for now lol). Been with the same lady since 1985. Everything went very smoothly, in fact we were the envy of all our friends for many years until my company required me to do some traveling in 2000. In 2005 she dumped my ass right after a Memorial Day vacation (how appropriate huh), apparently she’s been having an affair/s since 2001. I bought a home a few weeks later, kept my address a secret, deleted her phone numbers and changed my cell phone number so she could not contact me. Close to a year went by with NC and I felt almost completely healed till one day, she showed up at my door. Normally I would have shut the door in her or any woman’s face (I don’t put up with unfaithful partners) but she literally jumped on me, almost knocked me over and told me how much she missed me and loved me, blah, blah, blah. I thought I was strong enough at that point to except her on a friendship only basis but one thing led to another and eventually we were seeing each other intimately again. My bad! Fast forward to today, she’s been asking me to move back in with her for years. Unwillingly over the years (against my better judgment) I fell in love with her all over again, despite me knowing full well that there probably would be a 99 percent chance that she would pull the same stint again sooner or later. Anyways, I was supposed to move back in with her 2 weekends ago. The Fri. morning prior, I decided to drop by and surprise her with some morning coffee and treats. Well guess what? Caught her on the computer on one of the dating sites planning a get together. I was shocked but not surprised if you catch my drift, I always suspected/expected she would pull this crap on me again. Anyways I stood there speechless for about 10 minutes, said a few words (some not too pretty lol) then turned around and left. Last night for some crazy reason she called me and started telling me detailed stories of all the dates she’s been on lately. I calmly listened without interrupting even though it was tearing my heart apart, wished her good luck on the dating site/s and hung up on her. Was able to get about 2 hours sleep, got out of bed, made a coffee and proceeded to delete her phone numbers again. Last weekend I woke up on Sunday morning to find her sisters number on my cell phone. This was really odd since the only time her family calls me is for an emergency. I thought long and hard about returning the phone and after about 12 hours I decided to call her sister back just in case it really was an emergency. Well, she never did return my call. It will be 2 weeks today that I guess would be the end of our relationship. It's ben one hell of a rollercoaster ride so far, but I'm determined to sticking with NC and getting my life back in order ASAP. Link to comment
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