Dewboy Posted October 14, 2011 Share Posted October 14, 2011 Sooo, despite prior advice to leave my relationship on other issues with my fiancé, I still stuck around and we are still having issues. I told her last weekend that her constant complaining and wining everyday about her job was wearing me down and I was tired of walking in the door every day after work only for her to tell me how miserable her life is yet again. I was not very tactful and it kind of just boiled over. I told her she was acting like Eye ore (the donkey from Winnie the Pooh). This ticked her off to no end. Sunday night she drank a 6 pack of Icehouse in about an hour and a half and proceeded to light into me for being a jerk and insulting her. She then started reaming me for not caring about her and not showing her that I care about our relationship. She then started cussing me and slamming doors and telling me I should just move out and she was tired of my crap. I told her that I apologize for blowing up on her about her attitude but it seemed like the apology was too little too late so she continued to go off. Her 9yr old daughter came out of her room and asked why her mom slammed the door. My fiancé then started yelling at me to go and explain to her daughter that I am being a jerk and that’s why she slammed the door. I was furious that she drug her daughter into our argument so I didn’t say anything and snatched up my keys and wallet and stayed with a friend for the night. She called me a couple of times that night but I ignored her calls. The next morning she calls and I answer. She tells me that since I walked out/abandoned her again that she is done with this relationship and that we will just simply ride out the remainder of the lease on the house we rent and go separate ways. She said she will stay out of my way and we will live as roommates. I said “ok”. This apparently was the wrong answer so of course I get reamed for not fighting for her or the relationship. According to her I was supposed to say “Honey that’s not what I want, let’s sit down and talk about this”. I’m sorry but I have a hard time being the bigger person when someone is giving me ultimatums. Plus I feel like she is playing passive aggressive games. Example: I’m going to say this and see if you give the right answer”. She also told me to not worry about going to counseling because it’s not even worth it anymore (we were planning on going to pre-marital counseling but having a hard time finding a place that takes my insurance). She told me that she is done and that if I wanted to work things out that I am going to have to be the one to come her and say so. I’m taking this as “you need to apologize a thousand times over and beg for me to be in your life” I guess I have a hard time with this. Call it pride or whatever but when someone is giving me the cold shoulder and giving me short answers like “whatever” and “do what you want” when I talk to her….i really have no interest in working things out or asking for forgiveness. Also she tells me numerous times that the relationship is over but then goes off on me the next day for not fighting for us….I’m just sick of this. Tonight is a kids festival at eh school she works at. We (her daughters and mine) all went last year and had a good time. My daughter is staying with me this weekend so I asked her if it was ok if we went. She told me that she doesn’t want to be fake in front of people because we don’t talk at home so why would we hang out at the festival. She said “you can go, it’s a public event but we don’t have to hang out” Really? Wow……so im supposed to show up with my daughter and we just walk around and do our own thing? I told her that my daughter would want to see her and her girls so what would I tell her. She said “Tell her the truth, that you are not speaking to me”…….??????? Anyway I’m at a loss with all this. New advice or is it still a unanimous leave her? Link to comment
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