why do some people who consider themselves attractive....

[stormie]

why do some people who consider themselves attractive take offense when you don't find them attractive?? Have you guys noticed that?

 

There's a coworker who has a lot of girls who like him (I assume because he's a single bachelor living in the city, and supposedly single men are hard to find), and so he gets lots of attention. Well, one day, this coworker found out that I don't find him attractive or would even consider him as a date, and the guy now thinks that I'm somewhat of a snob. I can tell that his attitude is almost like one of competition and resentment - very hard to explain and put into words...

 

One day he asked me what kind of guys I like (I guess out of curiosity), and I told him that I'm basically not looking for anyone at the moment as I'm happy being single. It was almost like I was telling him "go to hell" lol

Either way, why do people take offense at that?

[velvette]

how did he find out you don't find him attractive? that's gotta be hurtful, whether or not he considers himself attractive!

[Theankh]

I have no idea, why wouldn't someone like being told they're unattractive? That's just weird.

[stormie]

I have no idea, why wouldn't someone like being told they're unattractive? That's just weird.

 

Well, I never told him he was unattractive straight out - just that i"m not showing the same traits the other girls are showing - like gaga'ing and ooogling all over him. Would never do that, even if I were interested - which I'm not as I really don't find him attractive. BUT, if I were ever attracted to any guy, they probably wouldn't know it. I'm not into elevating people's ego's unless I'm sure without a shadow of a doubt the interest would be returned.

[lanaa]

No i have never seen that.And most guys that can have most of the girls show interests in those rare that dont show any interest...and when they reject them,they get hurt?

[Day_Walker]

People dont like being told they arent an option, plain and simple. It seems that the OP's response to the guy's question was illusive rather than just answering the question.

[shikashika]

Well, depends how it was said.

 

Even if i didn't think someone was attracive, I'm not going to say it!!

 

Doesn't mean you have to say he's attractive, but there is never any need to say someone is unattractive. I think most people realise that they aren't going to be attractive to everyone... but if you knew someone specifically said you wre unattractive, I don't think you'd really warm to them, would you?

[stormie]

Well, depends how it was said.

 

Even if i didn't think someone was attracive, I'm not going to say it!!

 

Doesn't mean you have to say he's attractive, but there is never any need to say someone is unattractive. I think most people realise that they aren't going to be attractive to everyone... but if you knew someone specifically said you wre unattractive, I don't think you'd really warm to them, would you?

 

 

Okay, like I mentioned earlier, I never told him that he was unattractive. He's just used to many girls "oogling" over him and since I don't do that, plus I had the conversation with him that I'm not interested in dating anyone at the moment, he can easily conclude that I'm not interested. That is all. Now I'm telling you guys here - off the record as far as he's concerned- that I don't find him attractive one bit.

[Thorshammer]

Some good looking people are so used to getting by with their looks that if you attack them, you attack the only thing they stand out with. This might sound sleazy, but usually someone who is very attractive can be attracted to you if you knock them down their pedestal by making them seem ordinary, problem is, its a life-long thing, you slip and show too much interest, and its bye-bye.

 

And what city is this? I would move out there.