needs advice!

[charliebaby]

right, i have to ring my ex later.. about the money he owes me.

i texted him earlier to say, jsut to let you knw i will be ringing later about my money..

i havent really spoke to him since he got his new girlfriend.. so i need to knw what do i say?

do i ask if he is okay and happy?

do i act normal or be reall straight and moody..

i think this is going to really knock me back.. but i need to get that money off him..

 

i want him to think about me after i put the phone down, so is there anything i could do to kinda mess with his head? pleaseee help!

[bulletproof]

do i act normal or be reall straight and moody..

 

 

i want him to think about me after i put the phone down, so is there anything i could do to kinda mess with his head?

 

Do not act moody, act normal. Be polite and happy. If he asks how you are, tell him that everything is going well. Keep your dignity.

 

I think you need to move on instead of hoping he's thinking of you after you hang up the phone. Why do you want to mess with someone's head who you supposedly loved?

[w3536]

my ex owes me money as well. I went back and forth on whether i should ask for it back as i only loaned it to her 1 week before she broke up with me. BUT i came to the realization that i only wanted to ask for it back to talk to her so i decided not to because of something someone wrote down here on this website.

They wrote: "never lend someone something and expect it back specially when you want it back. think of it as "x amount" learned."

Another thing that helped was thinking that i loaned her the money to help her out and what kind of man would i be if i just asked for it not knowing her financial situation. I figured that she knows she owes me and when shes ready, if shes ever ready, she will pay me back in due time and if not then she wont.

i think you are just trying to figure out ways to mess with his mind and asking for your things back is some way of doing that. Like this person above said "keep your dignity." If he looks for you or messages you then answer politely and if not then there is no reason to talk any further even if it is about money...

[PaintWithLight]

right, i have to ring my ex later.. about the money he owes me.

i texted him earlier to say, jsut to let you knw i will be ringing later about my money..

i havent really spoke to him since he got his new girlfriend.. so i need to knw what do i say?

do i ask if he is okay and happy?

do i act normal or be reall straight and moody..

i think this is going to really knock me back.. but i need to get that money off him..

 

i want him to think about me after i put the phone down, so is there anything i could do to kinda mess with his head? pleaseee help!

 

So this is not really about the money, right? It is just an excuse for continued contact and a chance to mess with his head? How about you send a friend instead to collect the money and begin no contact. You sound pretty raw and what if the new girlfriend is around when you pop in? Better to avoid getting knocked back because your emotions are still all over the show.

 

You can't mess with his head. He has moved on and you are no longer his choice. Let go of the urge to try and reconnect with him and begin your new path as well. How much money is really involved here?

[LaKings55]

 

i want him to think about me after i put the phone down, so is there anything i could do to kinda mess with his head? pleaseee help!

 

You need to move past this. What if he has a more negative view of you after the call? Your mind is hoping that he'll come running back, but he won't.