Is This A Date?

[DeepestBlue]

Last saturday I went to the club and my friends weren't there. Toward the end of the night I ended up dancing with this guy for a couple songs at the end- it was just us on the dancefloor, a few feet apart (never made contact).

 

Afterward he introduced himself to me and asked to exchange contact info before leaving, so we never really spoke. Shortly after that he sent me a message asking if I wanted to "hang out" (his words).

 

I asked him when he's available, and he said thursday night when he's done work. We have spoken briefly during the week, to confirm plans and did make some small talk.

 

He had suggested going for a walk by the river at night, but I pointed out that it might rain due to the weather forecast, so we're now going for some late night food at a Greek restaurant after he's done work.

 

As it turns out, one of my friends knows him a little bit (small town) and said that he's from the country, nice guy, isn't the type to be looking for a one-night stand.

 

For me, it's a bit confusing. I mean, I would understand if maybe we had spoken a bit, or spent the whole night together on saturday, but it was only a couple songs. And wanting to meet up so shortly after just meeting and basically hardly having spoken strikes me as a bit unusual as well. Any thoughts?

 

I feel like this is sort of a casual "getting to know each other", low pressure type of thing, where it could really go either way, because we really don't know each other at all.

 

I do plan on spending some time on my appearance, but I'm still going to dress kind of casual and just try to have fun and be myself.

 

Anyone have any thoughts on this?

[blueidealist24]

I think you're right about the casual getting to know each other thing, but I think he has some interest in you. I think your approach is right. Good luck!

[wiseoldwoman]

Sounds like you're handling it about right. He saw something in you he liked, obviously. He might not be great at the introductory stages of talking in a club but does want to get to know you. I'm glad you zilched the walk along the river thing. Definitely need to stay in the public till you have a chance to get a feel for him. Good luck and enjoy.

[Keyman]

Okay, for a start, I think you are thinking way too much about it all.

 

Some people find it hard to have long discussions in night clubs - loud, hard to hear etc. But yes, he saw something he liked and would like to talk more at a more casual location away from the noise.

 

He wants to find out if there's any non-alcohol induced chemistry there and may be just happy taking things slowly. Just relax and take it as it comes. Who knows what might happen.

[annie24]

For me, it's a bit confusing. I mean, I would understand if maybe we had spoken a bit, or spent the whole night together on saturday, but it was only a couple songs. And wanting to meet up so shortly after just meeting and basically hardly having spoken strikes me as a bit unusual as well. Any thoughts?

 

I don't think it's confusing at all. a guy sees a pretty girl on the dance floor. as keyman points out, it's hard to get to know someone/have a long conversation in a nightclub, so he asks her out to get to know her better (over a walk or a quiet meal.) what's confusing about this?!? have fun!!!