Lenny70 Posted October 13, 2011 Share Posted October 13, 2011 We were together 2 1/2 years, were very much in love and the sexual chemistry was amazing, it began to go wrong last year when i visited my ex ex girlrfriend (were just good friends) i didnt tell her, she found out and dumped me so we split up last year for 5 months, i chased and chased and chased her, until i finally gave up and went travelling for a few months...as soon as i got there she began to call me and we got back together after 6 weeks travelling. A few months after getting my second chance, i found out she had been to another country to visit a guy (with friends) while we were together the year before, she said nothing happened...he told me different. I tried to push my feelings away because i wanted her, this was my second chance... I didnt want to let her go, but i couldnt help myself and became moody and distant so she dumped me. That was 11 weeks ago, we got back together for a week, but she was cold so i packed my bags and left, she invited back 5 days later, but it only lasted 4 more weeks,i then got dumped again by text message This time feels different, ive done all the usual.. I begged, pleaded chased(again) i went no contact for 3 weeks, then bought an engagment ring and asked her to marry me. She said no of course. The biggest problem we have now are trust issues, i wasnt unfaithful to her and its possible she wasnt unfaithful to me, so this whole mess is because of some poorly thought out actions. I love her so much, i know she is the right one for me.. I want her back. She sounds like its definatley over for her.. Although she was acting exactly the same last year when she took me back. If i write to her she takes her time responding and is very cold. But after a half hour phone call last week she said some of the following.. She doesnt want a guy in her life ( so, theres no-one else). We cant be together, but she still loves me. Shes ok without me, but it really hurts splitting up. We cant be friends.... But maybe we can meet each other sometime in the future. I went no contact a week ago now.. I feel i have pursued every avenue now with no positive response. I have deleted her from everything and i feel i need to let go of her. However, although i want to let go, i still hope for a reconcilliation. It will just have to come from her. My question is, do you think by the things she said, that she knows what she wants right now, but is also a little confused? She says she loves me still so maybe space and time is what she needs? What do you think? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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