Advice so confused.

[sio]

HI i really need some advice i'm sooooo confused right now am in right state. Quick background check i was with my B/friend for over a year. He is gorgeous looking he let me down a bit, he has changed so much and i can see it in him he is a different person. He was always so sweet but wasn't always fully commited. I love him with all my heart, i think about him all the time, i care about him, he is amazing in bed (sorry). We went for food 2 days ago and we had an amazing time i loved every minute of it. He is trying so hard to get me back, i hadn't seen him for a couple of weeks and he turned up at my home and asked to see me in a couple of days which i agreed too. I didnt stop smiling all day. I can't be with him though, i feel so happy being on my own right now. I dont want to go on dates with anyone. am so confused i love him, i fancy him, but something in my head won't let me. Any advice guys? why am i feeling like this? I don't know if its because he has always been there trying to get me back, am i taking it for granted that he will be back in a few weeks? Anyone ever felt like this?

[sio]

I have told him i want him to move on but if i did wake up 1 morning and was 100% sure i wanted to be with him id get in touch and see if he was free. I smelt his shirt he left in mine yesterday and burst into tears.

[offplanet]

Could it be the fact that he 'let you down a bit' and 'wasn't always fully committed' which has caused you to put up your defences against you being committed to him? Or is it that despite him being gorgeous and amazing etc. there is something lacking in your feelings towards him which stops you wanting to commit to him right now? Either way, whatever it is within you that's stopping you, there must be a good reason for that, so you are right to hold back, even if you are taking the risk that 'in a few weeks' he might not still be there for you. Gut feeling is usually a good indicator of what to do.

[sio]

Thank you for you words. I feel like i have no negativity towards him but something in my head is saying no and i don't even know what. I think in a couple of weeks ill either be ready to be with him or be ready to really move on. I did have a go at him because he wasn't so loving towards me when we first got together but i understand his reasons now. Thank you again

[DN]

If you behave like this you are likely to lose him for good. Is that what you want?