mindie Posted October 12, 2011 Share Posted October 12, 2011 I'm not sure if this thread should go in this forum or the friendship and friends forum...I chose this one anyhow. So. I moved here to New Zealand from Australia in June to live with my boyfriend. It's been pretty great. We click well together and all that but there's a huge difference between us. He's a social butterfly whereas I'm a social failure. He has many, many, MANY friends and acquaintances and people just seem to gravitate toward him. I, on the hand, usually fade into the background and keep to myself. At first I went with him to social gatherings like parties and band practices but as time has gone on he's sort of stopped asking me to come, I think mainly because about 70% of the time I turn him down. I'm not sure if this is impacting the health of our relationship but I walked past him last night, to get to the bathroom, and I glanced at his computer and I saw on the Google search engine 'my girlfriend won't socialize'. It kind of threw me to be honest, he likes to tease me about being anti-social but I didn't know it was really bothering him. Which leads me to ask myself: should I do it? Even if I would prefer not to? I suppose part of me doesn't want to because I don't drink, smoke, smoke pot or take any substances, I have no interest, my boyfriend likes the beer and a smoke of cigarettes and pot every now and then as do ALL of his friends. They use these things to have a good time and I don't so there's another whole issue in itself. I mean...is it better to try? Just TRY and socialize with them again? Or just be me and be the loner I am? I don't know. Link to comment
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