I Met 'The One'. Or Did I?

[DVDr]

A few years ago my fiancee and I broke up. We were together a long time and a few months before our wedding, it all collapsed very quickly and we ended up cancelling everything and going our separate ways. It's a few years ago now so the hurt has pretty much subsided, she is living with another and we haven't spoken in almost 2 years. Fine.

 

Here's the thing. A lot of my friends, family and work colleagues etc are bemused as to why I haven't met someone else and formed any meaningful bond with anyone in all of that time. My answer is simple. I met the girl I wanted to marry. I was with the one I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. Ok, for whatever reason, we weren't right for eachother but she WAS the one I had planned to grow old with, and for a long period of time, I was the one for her. To me, marriage is forever and once you meet that person, that's it. So why should I believe there's going to be another? Will someone else come along that makes me feel the same way?

 

Are my friends right? Am I a bit mad, or should I just let destiny run it's course??

[mhowe]

You are a bit mad. You were together for a long time, but before you vowed to spend your lives together -- it collapsed. For a reason. There is someone with whom it will not collapse. You just haven't met her yet -- and may not, if you have closed yourself to love.

[velvette]

how long were you together with your fiancee? from what age to what age was she a part of your life? the first significant relationship will always effect us deeply, it's quite normal. but that doesn't mean it's "the one".

[Eocsor]

There is no "one" and only. There are many people in life that can make you happy. You may think that relationships are meat to last forever, but as a lot of us learn, thats not the case.

 

But you can't meet someone else if you are holding on to the last failed romance. So until you are willing to accept that your last relationship is done for good and that she really didn't love you all that much, you'll never move on and allow yourself to be happy.

 

If you are having a lot of trouble moving on get counselling to find out what your issues are. There are times when you have to take an active hand in healing yourself.

[endy]

There is no "one" and only. There are many people in life that can make you happy. You may think that relationships are meat to last forever, but as a lot of us learn, thats not the case.

 

But you can't meet someone else if you are holding on to the last failed romance. So until you are willing to accept that your last relationship is done for good and that she really didn't love you all that much, you'll never move on and allow yourself to be happy.

 

If you are having a lot of trouble moving on get counselling to find out what your issues are. There are times when you have to take an active hand in healing yourself.

 

I agree 100 percent with the first paragraph of this. Remove that belief from your system that there is only ONE person for you. As humans we are all connected to each other period as a whole. We all come from the same source no matter what religion, philosophy etc you believe in.

 

We are here to learn and grow from experiences, people etc. NO relationship in this physical world lasts forever. Not a single one. Every single one of them ends. So with that in mind, you think there's only one person out there that you would marry? If you continue to believe that... that's what the universe is going to give you. Remove that belief, that thought, it's limiting you.

 

If you believe you can or can't... either way you're right. Henry Ford said that a long time ago. Guess what, it's 100 percent true.

[endy]

"The one" and "destiny" are fairy tales crafted by books and movies. It doesn't really exist. There are many people you can fall in love with and spend our lives with. This is why the human system is made so versatile. Why do you think god would be so evil? To only make one person you can love? no.

 

 

With that in mind religion and other mediums have created these beliefs in us. It's been pounded in our head for centuries. You think God, the universe, whatever is going to put one person on this earth, out of billions for you to find and marry? Think of it logically like that. It's just not the case.

 

It's just like a religious sects say that if you have certain experiences... like sex before marriage... that you're evil and you are going to hell. With that said that same book they believe in says you were created in the image of God, the universe, whatever you want to believe in. YOU HAVE CHOICE to what you believe is the point.

 

Guess what, jesus sinned when he was on the cross doubting his father. Did he go to hell? Half of religion is made up of man's collective thoughts and beliefs. I believe this is the time that we now need to throw out all these beliefs.

 

The point is examine your belief system. Don't let what someone else says or what you have learned in this materialistic, power hungry world guide you. A lot of ideas, beliefs are pounded into us at a young age, or they are cultural. That doesn't make them right or scripture. Get to know yourself and what's inside. Once you have that, you'll notice you were just resisting change. You'll know that you have tools to let your spirit guide you through experiences and what you'll attract to experience those experiences will change.