ponyo86 Posted October 12, 2011 Share Posted October 12, 2011 I think I like a player. Well a few months ago, he initially chased me and chased me and took me out for dinner and kissed my forehead and talked about the future. I had been through a bit of a tough long term break up, and I have known him (but not closely) for 5 or 6 years now. I know he is VERY popular, especially with the ladies, but one night he said to me (after I refused to go on a date with him), that because he has known me for so long to 'play' me would be a dog act. He was also very very sweet, and I think he was pretty genuine. So I gave it a go. He was very cute and sweet, took me out and never pushed for sex. This lasted about 2 weeks. Then one night I freaked out a bit, my 'wall' came down and I voiced some insecurities about getting used to someone else and that I didn't feel like I was as funny as him etc. Kind of just went a bit vulnerable. And he ran. He got really weird and backed off heaps. A few days later we had wine at his place and ended up sleeping together. Massive mistake as it was even more awkward and then kind of just fizzled, like he lost all interest. Now 4 months later he is back again out of the blue, but not as strong as before. We hung out, he bought me lunch one day, then we hung out again on the weekend. He kissed me on sunday, sort of took me by surprise, but nothing was said about what happened last time. I was too scared to bring it up cos I was having fun with him. Plus he is really hard to talk to like that. After I left he texted me to say 'thanks for the kiss' (but not in those exact words). But now I haven't heard from him since (3 days), except last night when I initiated contact, and it was pretty casual, non-eventful conversation. He is going away tomorrow for a week, I thought I might hear from him tonight, but nothing! Why would he come back on the scene like that, out of the blue? Then kiss me, be very attentive, fall all over me, then nothing. I just dont understand. Now I feel angry for making myself vulnerable again, and I feel like a fool and like I am getting played. The main thing is that he did it once now is cold again, and he seems to be pretty hot and cold. I wish I didnt have feelings for him but I do and saying 'kick him to the curb' is not helping. He also has these hot girls moving into his place (I saw on FB). Am i just wasting my time here? I feel like I'm trying to be honest and self controlled ie. not sleeping with him or being needy so as to slide into the 'booty call' category, but I hate that I feel so stupid right now! Should I text him before he leaves? I just want to know what he's thinking!!? Should I text him before he goes away? Link to comment
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