BlackGoaty Posted October 12, 2011 Share Posted October 12, 2011 To give a quick background, I have been dating this lady for slightly over a year. Have met her family except for her brother and his family who have moved away to his wife's country of residence. The brother is going to be a dad coming January and she will be travelling with her parents to visit his family and newborn. Couple of months back, she asked me if I would like to travel with her and her family to visit her brother (for the first few days) and we will then go on side trips on our own to the other states without her family. Back then,I said I am keen to go. I did not bring the trip up until few nights ago she asked again if I am still keen to go with her on the trip to which I replied I am since I have not been to her brother's country of residence before. I told her to let me know the dates so I can take time off from my work. However, she then went on to tell me she is no longer keen in taking the side trips and will just stay throughout with her family and spending time with them and she is unsure if I want to join if this is the case. She thinks there will be some family drama going on during the trip and she thinks that I may not want to go because of it. I am not that close with her family but through her, i know about quite a fair bit. I told her that if that is the case it will be awkward for me to be around and therefore I will not go with her on this trip. I did add on that if she want me to go, I would go to give her support (from whatever drama that might take place) to which she replied that it is not the point of whether she want me to go along with her. As this was done via texting, I would want to speak to her in person but I want to sort out/process some thoughts out myself first. 1. Why would she still ask me if I am keen to go Japan when she is no longer taking the side trips. 2. If she really don't want me to come along, would she even start asking in such a manner? 3. Should I insist on going because I want to be there with her but i am not sure how this will work out. Any insights to help me process my thoughts would be greatly appreciated! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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