hate to say it, but it doesnt hurt

[liz3290]

I hate posting this, for those that are hurting, but I honestly don't feel hurt. I mean I've just gotten to the point where all I want is for him to be out of my life. He and I have been living together since the breakup, and for the first 3 months or so, I cried pretty much constantly about the breakup and how upset I was that he could do this to me, but now I just want him gone. I don't want anything to do with him anymore. He's finally moving home (to texas, we're in columbia), but not for another 2 weeks. I mean I was in love with him, but I think the breakup took off the 'rose-colored' glasses, and the tears were because I couldn't believe he could hurt me like that. There is potential I still love him, but I just don't wanna care anymore.

I guess I'm just wondering if these are normal feelings to have...these feelings of pretty much not caring about him at all anymore and just wanting him out of my life. If anyone has any suggestions at all, please let me know.

[LDRohnos]

Yes it's very healthy..just one of the steps moving on. You're almost there

[Tanzi]

It means you have come to accept what has happened and now just want to be able to move on completely. When we get to the point when we realise we are over someone it is truly a liberating feeling. As things stand, your current living arrangements are undoubtedly holding you back from feeling that full sense of freedom.

[offplanet]

Yes that sounds very healthy indeed. I think most of the people who post here are not in that healthier state of being sick of the person, and unfortunately still feel that they want the person, for a long time. As you said, your tears are for the hurt he caused you. For a lot of people, maybe that is true too, without them realizing that they actually hate the person who has hurt them, in a way, although still wanting them.

[marshallmog]

omg i so want to get to that point that you are at... and good point offplanet you made me think that maybe my tears are for the hurt he has caused me and not for him.. i hope i am where your at soon x

[soundlessvoice]

I hope one day I can get to the place where you are at right now. That's great

[lemsip]

Nice one - you sound like you're in a great frame of mind.

 

3 months ago I would have done anything to have my ex back. Now I truly wish we could just sell our house and for me to have her out of my life. In a way I'm glad she hooked up with another guy towards the end of our relationship as it meant she made the decision for me. I'd no other choice but to let go.

[BlueRose66]

I am almost and just about there too. It feels good, and the progress is increasing exponentially. I am looking forward to my life as a single again.

[Eocsor]

Thats good. We all move through the steps of grieving at our own pace. Just be aware that the steps aren't linear and just because you've gone through the stage once, doesn't mean you won't end up there again. But it sounds like you are in a much better place now so way to go and good luck on your continued journey.

[BlueRose66]

Thats good. We all move through the steps of grieving at our own pace. Just be aware that the steps aren't linear and just because you've gone through the stage once, doesn't mean you won't end up there again. But it sounds like you are in a much better place now so way to go and good luck on your continued journey.

 

Yes, so true. I just booked my flight to the Islands and another wave of grief overcame me. Sadly, it wont be with her as she isnt a part of my life anymore.

[Thorshammer]

I am with you on that. It means you finally got out of that dark hole and seeing the light! Rebuilding starts now, and eventually you will start having crushes on others.