Is she cheating?

[Jay_Bird]

me and my girlfriend have been on and off again for 2 years

 

but she always gets into one of these moods sometimes,where she doesnt talk to me at all for like 2 or 3 weeks

 

then after that she is back to,oh I love you so much I cant live without you

 

I feel myself getting fed up,I ask her if she is cheating and of course she denies it

 

 

what should I do when she does this,I know she is probably cheating but now Im at the point where I dont care, I dont want to argue about it and just say let her do whatever

 

we been together for such a long time and she does everything for me,and she is very beautiful I mean she really does so much for me

 

but when she goes silent for 2 or 3 weeks I dont know what to do

 

can you guys give me any advice to a solution to this?

[sidehop]

Simple; ask yourself if you want to put up with such behavior. 2-3 weeks is absolutely ridiculous. Life is too short to waste that much of a time hoping for something good in the end. The on/off relationship is a clear indication there's something missing in the relationship that either needs to be fixed or you two going in a separate direction.

[vickyylove]

Even if she isn't cheating the disappearing act is just unacceptable. Maybe she isn't even mature enough for a relationship.

[Jay_Bird]

i dont understand women

 

the times that we have broken up,I was always the guy that did that

 

and at the begenning of our relationship she use to call me constant

 

 

but your right,sometime is missing, I have no clue what it is

 

edit

 

vicky your right

 

im 25,and she is 21

 

I dont believe she is mature myself, matter of fact I know

[Stay_home]

It could be that her age at 21 may have something to do with it, but not everybody was like that at 21. I wasn't. But that's certainly irresponsible to be in a relationship, have a blowout and disappear for 2-3 weeks. I'd try to voice my concerns to her about it and if things don't change soon, I'd be a goner.

[vickyylove]

I don't even think it's the age things it's her personality. I'm 22 and I can't imagine disappearing on someone I'm in a relationship with. She doesn't value you in my opinion and thus doesn't deserve you.

[nycprincess]

She might or might not be, sounds like she just isnt that into you- and probably has a hard time letting go. She could be confused.

 

I just got out of a relationship where he was crazy about me- then dropped off the earth refusing to see me for 2-3 weeks. Guess what? It didnt work out. I left because its ridiculous to play mind games with someone. When its right its right. Move on, you will find someone that will not be so on and off.

[Jay_Bird]

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thanks

 

crazy thing I have addressed it before to her,she doesnt do it often just seems like she do it once every few months

 

I text her about it sunday night,and text me back telling me she been working very hard at her "job" so me and her could have a good future together

 

and that was pretty much the last thing i got from her and here today is tuesday

 

 

if I didnt send that text to her,I wouldnt have heard from here since last sunday

[guynextdoor]

How do you know she is cheating? Any proof because right now you are just making accusations. Her being MIA for 2-3wks is kinda strange.. maybe she works for the secret service.

[diamond78]

When someone is making disappearing acts for 2-3 weeks on a consistent basis, that is a major clue that this person isn't good relationship material. I mean how many times has this happened where she disappeared like that??

[Jay_Bird]

2 maybe 3 times this whole year

[Snowy]

Confront her about it and ask if she still wants a relationship.

 

Maybe she is hinting on a breaking up? You never know until you ask.

 

2 - 3 weeks missing is more than ridiculous.

[Jay_Bird]

i text her today

 

told her if she doesnt want to be with me she can leave,she told me she doesnt want to be in the relationship anymore

 

and says she wants to be best friends still (the ole i want to be best friends line)

 

I told her we can still be friends

 

but i dont want to talk to her anymore to be truthful

[Mesemene]

Then don't.

 

Tell her "your hot/cold episodes have hurt me enough that I really don't feel "friendly" right now, I can't be your friend when I don't feel like a friend. I wish you the best - goodbye."

[Snowy]

i text her today

 

told her if she doesnt want to be with me she can leave,she told me she doesnt want to be in the relationship anymore

 

and says she wants to be best friends still (the ole i want to be best friends line)

 

I told her we can still be friends

 

but i dont want to talk to her anymore to be truthful

 

Yep, no surprise at all.

 

She is not sexually interested in you anymore, but is willing to feed you bream crumbs (staying as friends), while she looks for or date someone else.

 

Maybe if you also have no sexual interests in her, you can stay as friends. But if you still have the slightest feelings for her, then it is time for you to cut her off for good.