Why end of the love feels like end of the world?

[ElizabethB]

When you trust someone you love, why does it feel like the end of your world when you find out, that he likes you like a friend only? That those feeling he had for you – never specified what they meant – while you were hoping for more were never more…? Why when he said nothing will happen between you two – something happened anyway? And when he said it meant a lot to him, it means nothing to him now…?

It is killing me. I can’t stop thinking what I did wrong. While I would give up everything for him, he just played with my naïve feelings. At the end – I am blamed for everything. Nothing was his fault, he did nothing wrong. To him I was too jealous, too emotional and unpredictable. He just wanted to see me that way, so he can pull away, just like many times before.

It hurts…

[bichin]

When you love someone you include them in your world, so in effect your world does change drastically when they make their exit. Have confidence that you will meet the man who appreciates you and includes you in his world. This one was merely a near miss.

[beacon]

People change. They change everyday. You may have changed and not even realized it. My ex said she is a different person now and she is. She is a person who doesn't care to deal with making a relationship be as it should be. She just wants it to be. Maybe she'll find that. I know I want to believe that it is like that. I definitely can't expect her to choose me over her happiness.

[thejigsup]

Every relationship in your life will end. Every single one of them. Some by break up, some by divorce, and some by death. What's important to remember is that YOUR life is still there and still worth living. Enjoy it. It will be over before you know it. Don't waste time grieving for some idiot who used you. Go out and enjoy your life!

[ElizabethB]

I know. It is just hard to realize it. My brain was always telling me why I should not like him at first place but was I listening? No, because love is blind.

And the crazy thing is that I feel like I felt in love with him because I felt sorry for him. Sorry that he was in bad shape because of his illness. He has all kinds of side effects because of that, impotence as well and I still wanted him so much.

I felt like I wanted to make him feel less lonely, more loved and happy. And what I got in return? Tears, nothing more.

[ElizabethB]

And now I feel like a loser because I was not able to make his world happier place.