ElleBelle Posted October 11, 2011 Share Posted October 11, 2011 I broke up with him and then asked for another chance a little while afterwards. He said no. Then my birthday comes and I get red roses and chocolates. Why? I don't know what to think about this. Link to comment
In the Dark Posted October 11, 2011 Share Posted October 11, 2011 Neither would I when he did say no. Maybe he has changed his mind and rgretted saying no. So he is indirectly saying he is intyerested. Alll in speculation though. Link to comment
ElleBelle Posted October 11, 2011 Author Share Posted October 11, 2011 Thank you for your response In the Dark -- I haven't responded yet because I just don't know what to do. Do you think he could just be trying to mess with me? Because it seriously did. : ( Link to comment
In the Dark Posted October 11, 2011 Share Posted October 11, 2011 Thank you for your response In the Dark -- I haven't responded yet because I just don't know what to do. Do you think he could just be trying to mess with me? Because it seriously did. : ( Yes this is another thought I had. But what reason would he have in needing to spend money to mess with you? Link to comment
northpickle Posted October 11, 2011 Share Posted October 11, 2011 Is it your birthday today Elle? If so, happy birthday! x Link to comment
ElleBelle Posted October 11, 2011 Author Share Posted October 11, 2011 I don't know! I am not sure if he thinks he is just doing a nice thing or what -- but a dozen red roses and chocolates? Should I just ask him why he sent them? Link to comment
ElleBelle Posted October 11, 2011 Author Share Posted October 11, 2011 Is it your birthday today Elle? If so, happy birthday! x Thank you North Pickle. Yes, birthday time for me... Link to comment
In the Dark Posted October 11, 2011 Share Posted October 11, 2011 I don't know! I am not sure if he thinks he is just doing a nice thing or what -- but a dozen red roses and chocolates? Should I just ask him why he sent them? It would be your best bet for potentially getting some clarification as to why he did this. Link to comment
tattoobunnie Posted October 11, 2011 Share Posted October 11, 2011 He probably pre-ordered them a while back, and forgot. I'd send a text to say "thanks for the b-day present" and leave it at that. Link to comment
sunnydee Posted October 11, 2011 Share Posted October 11, 2011 He may still be interested which is the only reason I see for the gift. But then again, he did say no to getting back with you. I agree with tattoobunnie and just tell him thank you. If he's really interested, he'll contact you. Link to comment
ElleBelle Posted October 11, 2011 Author Share Posted October 11, 2011 Arghghghghghghhh. Link to comment
Eocsor Posted October 11, 2011 Share Posted October 11, 2011 If you are interested in getting back with him, maintain light contact and see where it goes. But be honest about where YOU are at right now. Are you strong enough to take a chance again IF it is offered? Or will any rejection just really set you back. No one can tell you what he is thinking. You'll have to risk the chance of getting hurt in order to find out. Link to comment
ElleBelle Posted October 11, 2011 Author Share Posted October 11, 2011 Yes, I can't know for sure, because you never know what anyone is thinking. I am not sure if I am strong enough -- this breakup really tore my world apart and I am just getting to where I am functioning again. I am certainly not over him and am still in love with him. If he is doing this to mess with my head he really sucks. Regardless of why he is doing it, he is messing with my head and that really sucks. Link to comment
Eocsor Posted October 11, 2011 Share Posted October 11, 2011 Yes, I can't know for sure, because you never know what anyone is thinking. I am not sure if I am strong enough -- this breakup really tore my world apart and I am just getting to where I am functioning again. I am certainly not over him and am still in love with him. If he is doing this to mess with my head he really sucks. Regardless of why he is doing it, he is messing with my head and that really sucks. Sometimes life sucks As I said, be honest with how much you are willing to risk. Sometimes in life, as much as we want to do something, we aren't at a place emotionally where we can risk getting hurt again. I'm not saying thats you, but just be very carefull no matter what route you decide to go. Good luck. Link to comment
ElleBelle Posted October 11, 2011 Author Share Posted October 11, 2011 Sometimes life sucks As I said, be honest with how much you are willing to risk. Sometimes in life, as much as we want to do something, we aren't at a place emotionally where we can risk getting hurt again. I'm not saying thats you, but just be very carefull no matter what route you decide to go. Good luck. Thank you Eocsor. Link to comment
diamond78 Posted October 11, 2011 Share Posted October 11, 2011 Elle, I can see why you're confused. Those are gifts you give some who you love...like a Valentine type gift. I would simply just email or call and say thank you for the flowers and candy. That you weren't expecting them, but it was a pleasant surprise. If he is interested, he will go from there. Did he also leave a note or card with the gift? If so, what did he say? Link to comment
Mellie Posted October 11, 2011 Share Posted October 11, 2011 Happy Birthday. I agree - pretty full on present. If he's messing with you, that really sucks. I'd say thank you. Responding is really the only way you'll find out what it was all about, one way or the other. Put it this way, if you don't respond, he's going to feel pretty silly and may not have the front to risk losing face again. Link to comment
ElleBelle Posted October 12, 2011 Author Share Posted October 12, 2011 Elle, I can see why you're confused. Those are gifts you give some who you love...like a Valentine type gift. I would simply just email or call and say thank you for the flowers and candy. That you weren't expecting them, but it was a pleasant surprise. If he is interested, he will go from there. Did he also leave a note or card with the gift? If so, what did he say? EXACTLY -- he did leave a note (I don't want to say it here, but it was very complimentary to me). I did respond with a simple thank you, and I said it was nice of him to do. He never responded. Link to comment
ElleBelle Posted October 12, 2011 Author Share Posted October 12, 2011 Happy Birthday! Thank you Tomboy :star: Link to comment
ElleBelle Posted October 12, 2011 Author Share Posted October 12, 2011 Happy Birthday. I agree - pretty full on present. If he's messing with you, that really sucks. I'd say thank you. Responding is really the only way you'll find out what it was all about, one way or the other. Put it this way, if you don't respond, he's going to feel pretty silly and may not have the front to risk losing face again. Thank you for the Birthday wish -- I don't want him to feel silly, of course (I love him and never want him to feel anything bad) but seriously, * * * . And no response to my thank you email... Link to comment
diamond78 Posted October 12, 2011 Share Posted October 12, 2011 EXACTLY -- he did leave a note (I don't want to say it here, but it was very complimentary to me). I did respond with a simple thank you, and I said it was nice of him to do. He never responded. How long ago did this happen? Just today? And I forgot to say Happy Birthday in my first post...Happy Birthday, lady! Well, one good thing is that you left a lasting good impression on him if he felt compelled to send such a gift along with a nice card. But yea, I'm totally confused now too...lol Link to comment
ElleBelle Posted October 12, 2011 Author Share Posted October 12, 2011 How long ago did this happen? Just today? And I forgot to say Happy Birthday in my first post...Happy Birthday, lady! Well, one good thing is that you left a lasting good impression on him if he felt compelled to send such a gift along with a nice card. But yea, I'm totally confused now too...lol Thank you : ) Yes, this happened today. I mean, he has to know this will mess with me, right? Link to comment
diamond78 Posted October 12, 2011 Share Posted October 12, 2011 Hmm...well, since it all happened to day, let's give him 24-48 hours to respond to your e-mail. May I ask who broke up with who? I mean if he ended things and sent this as a gift, then it's a major mind game.....but if you ended things, then him sending a gift is more understandable. What was the nature of the breakup? Link to comment
ElleBelle Posted October 12, 2011 Author Share Posted October 12, 2011 I broke up with him, and then I asked to take it back, and he wouldn't let me. The nature of the breakup was that we love each other very much, but we have past baggage that was messing things up. Stupid childhood baggage and whatnot--a tragedy really. We do not hate each other. We were together for 4 years. It has been about three months since we broke up. Link to comment
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