bornfree Posted October 10, 2011 Share Posted October 10, 2011 This is really really hard for me but I would appreciate some advice and guidance right now. I am 45 and have been married for 14 years. We have two children, the youngest aged just 3. For the last three weeks my husband has been acting oddly- staying out late till 1 or 2 am every night. Last week and for the first time ever, I looked at his phone and to my horror saw that he had been texting and emailing another woman some of which were sent while we were together at the weekend. The very last message read: "I want to be with you and have children;can we do that?" I am devasted. My life has turned upside down and I feel wretched. How could he text someone while I was there in the same house? How could he be saying these things to another woman? This has literally come out of nowhere and I feel like I have been stabbed in the heart. I confronted him but he says it was just a joke and that this woman is his friend. What hurts is that he has been emailing her while he is at work all day and one of her messages to him read: "perhaps we are soul mates but there is no recognition for that role." - implying what -that she wants my role? I don't know what to think or do. From the tenor of the emails I read it seems that he is at the flirting stage and I do believe him when he says that nothing physical has happened between them. This last weekend was very strained. We did not talk about it and I put up a jolly front for the kids. I am trying to keep it light and friendly between us but inside I am torn to shreds. I think he will leave me for her any time soon and if not he is thinking about it. I have a roller coster of emotions right now- scared/heartbroken. We are still together but I don't know what to do. Please help. Link to comment
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