randombroken Posted October 10, 2011 Share Posted October 10, 2011 Hi there, just wanted some views/thoughts on that my current ex girlfriend wanted to spilt up about a week ago. Quick background she is German living in germany and im living in london we had been together 4 years, lived together in Germany and i came back for work. However the last weeks/few months she has struggled so much with the distance and speaking in english that her term was all 'too much' for her. The result to distance herself as much as possible and be very short fused and shout at me on a fairly frequent basis. on the back of this i know i was quite silly in that i would contact her more so because i was worried about her self-destructive behaviour. (she has admitted that before we met she had depression in the past) Then after not speaking properly for 3/4 days we speak on skype and she decides its too much and her reasons were based on that i have more energy than her and we are different when we are annoyed. She was very upset on the day as was i though i cant help feel that she doesnt really want this probably just needed time apart. Since breaking up she texted me the following day is ask if i was ok to which i left for 2 days then texted her to which she rang me. we have since texted on the wednesday and i left it until sunday to speak on skype. We chatted calmly for half an hour about what we had been up too. She stated that she slept soo much and had felt ''mentally and physically exhausted''. She then seemed much better and slightly more cheerful, then we spoke about next week, as i have a flight booked and was thinking of going over to actually have a proper conversation and meet with friends. Am not sure if this is a good idea? Also she asked if she would pick me up from the airport and where i would stay. i suggested i would go to a hotel then she came back with i could stay with her on the sofa. we left in there and she suggested that we speak again on wednesday so i could decide and let her know where im going to stay. Therefore i know i have rambled on like a trooper but would be good to know what others think as my head is not in the right place to think correctly. I have concerns about her mental state and personally i did not want to end the realtionship and am gutted in the way it was done.Especially over the course of this relationship we spoke so often that we thought we were right for each other and the marriage and kids discussion on more than one occasion. I would of done a lot for this girl and was planning to look at jobs over there now having a good experience/exposure in working. thoughts and questions greatly recieved cheers Link to comment
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