I have been a little p/o'ed at mom

[indigoblue]

I am going to sound like a bad daughter but I hit her really hard on the back but I just said I was kidding and I also pinched her shoulder... for some reason I have this bottled in resentment towards her and I can't get rid of it. She kept blaming me for being dumped, told me that I'll never find anyone and when I cried in front of her she told me to stop crying because it's useless. I hold so much hatred towards her for some reason, and I want to be a good daughter and have a good relationship with her but she agitates me to no end.

[chitown9]

Wow. It seems that you think hitting and pinching your mom is no big deal. IT IS A BIG DEAL. Your mom would have every right to call the police, and then guess what? You would go into a facility for juvenile delinquents. On the other hand, your mother does not seem sensative to your needs. I think that it would be beneficial for you and your mom to get some family counseling. I would talk to your counselor at your school and simply say that you think you and your mom need to communicate better and do you have a recommendation for a family counselor. I would not mention hitting your mom etc. No need to tell the school counselor that...chi

[Mesemene]

She kept blaming me for being dumped, told me that I'll never find anyone and when I cried in front of her she told me to stop crying because it's useless.

 

Well, no mystery as to the resentment and anger there. You're right to worry - physical aggression is definitely not the way to handle it though - it'll only get you in more trouble, which is more than you need right now.

 

Agree with the idea of counseling though - sounds like mom could use it as well honestly - berating and belittling you isn't exactly going to help when you're already down.

 

In the meantime - is there something you can do to release some of that pent up anger and frustration? Something physical, or even a deserted area where you can just scream?

[indigoblue]

She's apologized for the mean things she's said to me... she's not the only one I'm really angry at but when I look for comfort from her she isn't as emotionally available as I want her to be.

[Betweenthebars]

If I didn't have self restraint, I would be a puncher/kicker during fights. I just get this unimaginable, pent up adrenaline and tension in every inch of my body when angry! So, because of that, I run. When I'm upset, angry, or feel like slapping my hubby, I run. Kick boxing would be best, but if you're like me and that is not a possibility, I suggest hard core cardio.

 

Good luck.

[indigoblue]

Haha yeah I should get cardio and take up kickboxing. She really gets to me Thanks though.