fireflies23 Posted October 8, 2011 Share Posted October 8, 2011 Ive been with my boyfriend a year now and beginning to realise that he has no intentions of a serious future with me. I am 23 and he is 27; i'm at a point now where I want to be with someone who WANTS to stay with me for the long-run, otherwise I really dont see the point in developing a relationship. He's very much logical/rational about things and tends not to look ahead further than several months (in all areas of life) He isnt comfortable expressing how he feels so therefore I am often left feeling uncertain about his actual feelings towards me; although he tells me he loves me frequently. Many friends have asked why we havent considered moving in together as that is what would make sense in our current situation but honestly whilst id love to do so, I just KNOW he wouldnt and he hasnt mentioned the possibility of it in the future. He has commented on how if we were having to handle long-distance permanently (we have been for a few months now) then he's not sure if he could do it. In a years time he moves even further away and it feels like that is the set cut-off date for relationship. I realise alot of this is my own insecurity.. but Im more insecure because he doesnt show any sign of commitment. The one time I did ask if he was serious about us he said 'of course, you know I love you'.. and that was that. It doesnt make me feel any better somehow. I cant go on feeling this anxious over it all because its affecting the relationship at the moment. Everyones advice is to 'enjoy it for now'.. but I dont want 'for now', I want potentially forever. Thats not to say I want a proposal..of course not.. I just want reassurance that he IS serious about me.. And if he isnt, I can prepare to move on. Link to comment
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