Ziggy777 Posted October 8, 2011 Share Posted October 8, 2011 Ok, I just found this forum and I'm wondering if anyone could help at all with a potential problem I'm having. A few days ago I registered with an online dating site. I've talked to quite a few people via the site and today I talked to a new guy who I approached (or winked at to be more exact) via instant messaging. We talked for a few hours and then he asked if I could send him a picture. Now I don't have pictures up on the dating site, because I'm not comfortable with everyone seeing them yet, so I told him that and he asked if I have a facebook account and if I minded friending him on facebook so he could see pics that way. I told him ok and friended him. He saw a few pics and then I unfriended him and told him we should continue talking through the dating site versus facebook. After I stopped talking to him I realised that by friending him on facebook he saw my actual real name.... My name is insanely unusual and I'm now panicking and thinking I've not only done something insanely stupid but dangerous too... How do I fix this?!?! What do I do?!?! What's the worst that could happen here!?!? Any ideas/thoughts would be greatly appreciated! I'm panicking big-time here.... Link to comment
Mesemene Posted October 8, 2011 Share Posted October 8, 2011 Odds are in your favor that nothing will happen. While yes, there is a chance he could try to look you up with it - it's fortunately not a large number of guys that will go through that. It's definitely something to keep in mind for the future - maybe make an account on photobucket or something to host only pics without any name revelations? If you're curious as to what information he could find, do a search on yourself, and see what comes up. Sometimes it's scary, sometimes rather reassuring. The one I found the most information on was link removed, and even that wasn't nearly accurate. Link to comment
Ziggy777 Posted October 8, 2011 Author Share Posted October 8, 2011 Thank you so much for the reply and for the info Mesemene! I just googled myself and the only thing that comes up is fiction pieces I've written (and there's no links to contact details or anything through the magazines and online publications) and my facebook page. link removed can't find any info on me at all... Our phone number is unlisted too, plus all the house bills are in a flatmate's name so there's no paper trail there either for sure. Ok so I might be able to breathe a little easier now...! I hadn't even thought about the photobucket possibility... I'm so new at this I hadn't even thought of the photo possibility really, so when this guy suggested facebook I just thought "good idea" (bangs head on table)...! Will definitely never do this again...! Ziggy Link to comment
Mesemene Posted October 8, 2011 Share Posted October 8, 2011 Glad it helped - I know I was rather amused and relieved when it came up with information that was 20 years out of date for me. Link to comment
DN Posted October 8, 2011 Share Posted October 8, 2011 The chances of anything bad happening to you are less than the chance of being in an auto accident. Link to comment
Ziggy777 Posted October 8, 2011 Author Share Posted October 8, 2011 Looking at the search engine info is a reality check yes! Thanks again Mesemene! DN thanks for the reply! That's good to know, though the odds of being in a car accident are fairly high. I guess it's not knowing that there is a risk involved here (I mean everything is risky to an extent), it's more that when one is a newbie at these things the risk seems so vague and one doesn't really know what can happen or how...! Ziggy Link to comment
laura40 Posted October 10, 2011 Share Posted October 10, 2011 Hi there, I doubt anything will happen. Maybe next time, save your photos and send to him (with a new email account made purposely for dating sites) or as Mesemene said, through a Photobucket account. Link to comment
Ziggy777 Posted October 14, 2011 Author Share Posted October 14, 2011 Hey Laura, Thanks for your reply and for the information! Both the e-mail for the dating site and the photobucket account sound very good indeed and way safer than facebook and real names for sure! Ziggy Link to comment
ILYx3 Posted October 19, 2011 Share Posted October 19, 2011 u know. what if the guy was actually u know. like what if he shows ur pictures and like uthought thats him but its not really him? Just show him a few pictures but not ur facebook details etc. thats the risk of online dating, u cant trust whoever u meet on the website Link to comment
blueidealist24 Posted October 28, 2011 Share Posted October 28, 2011 I don't think it's that big of a deal. I added guys from dating sites to facebook. I add strangers that I meet in the bar to it so it's kind of the same thing. If they bother you, you block them. I don't have my address on there or phone number so it's not a huge deal. Link to comment
DipsyDoodle Posted October 29, 2011 Share Posted October 29, 2011 Calm down! I doubt anything is going to happen. You should've spoken to him on yahoo IM and sent a pic of yourself that way or just sent it through email. Link to comment
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