hopefulromantic79 Posted October 7, 2011 Share Posted October 7, 2011 Hi, Everyone: Here to get some advice on a recent conversation I had with a close friend of mine. My friend, G, is going through a rough time trying to get pregnant with her husband. So, as we always do, we talk all day at work about our issues and provide feedback/empathy/sympathy/advice about each others' lives (well, she gives most of the advice; I try and not do it as much). Well, yesterday we were IM'ing back and forth and I ended up getting on my soap box about how she should be grateful for what she has (husband, house, good job, health) and not stress so much about what she doesn't. She tried to tell me that she should have started to have kids earlier, etc - how our ovaries are drying up, etc. at age 29-31. Of course, I know so many people who have gotten pregnant later in life, it's almost silly to argue over this issue over and over again. I eventually got so worked up I told her that there are other things to do than have babies! Well, this turned into me being self-righteous and now she won't talk to me (we talk every day over IM, person, text). Feeling like I really pushed the boundary and now I've lost a friend I wrote her this email and no response: Hi - Sorry if I came accross as self-righteous yesterday. Obviously this is a stressful time for you and I shouldn't make it worse by trying to project my own insecurities about my life. I think having a family (of some sort) is what life is about - something I've always wanted but have denied for whatever reason. Perhaps you aren't even thinking about our conversation yesterday, but I am and it bothers me to think that you would believe that I don't want the very best for you and (Husband). You have been true friends and I'll always be grateful for that! So, just wanted to send my apology because I know that I let my anxiety about my own future get the best of me, and in turn, offended you which was not what I intended. Have a great day & enjoy the wedding! Let me know if you want to borrow my dress. **************** What should I do? Wait for her to cool down? Thanks for any advice! Link to comment
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