she went out of her way to get on the same elevator as me? Is she attracted?

[caughtinabadon]

preface: so there is this girl in my class at uni and I just realized she lives in my building at my apartment complex. We have had multiple major classes together over the year but never interacted. I've caught her looking at me in class from time to time but never acknowledged it for whatever reason.

 

anyway so today I pull up in my spot in our complex in an underground structure with gated entry. As I'm pulling up she appears out of no where and walks past me in my car smiling and looking down typing on her phone and I'm like * * * , taken by surprise.

 

I get out and glance back to see where she was going. There are only two things to do in that garage, exit through this gate to the street or take the elevator up. She steps out through the gate to the street so I'm like damn just missed her! In my head.

 

so I'm like it must have been a coincidence, brush it off and head to the elevator to go up. I hear some shuffling behind me as I get to the elevator room and then lo and behold there she is. Mind = blown. You wouldn't walk out that gate that leads to the street and then use the elevator. Makes no sense either you go up to rooms or leave to the street, not both. It seemed as though she used that exit as a delay to meet me in the room, but who the knows lol anyway

 

I ask her if she's in my class and we talk for a bit, she is super enthusiastic and smiling, very receptive to the things I'm saying. She introduces herself first and puts her hand out. I'm so caught off guard I didn't think to ask her number to study or something but just said see you in class and we were on our separate ways.

 

So should I wait for her after class Tuesday and set something up and get her number? You think she was digging me? Am I just overanalyzing? What would you do?

[Snowy]

it's either she's interested or just trying to make a friend.

 

If you live so close, I suggest you get her number and start hanging out for a bit. Maybe you can study with her.

[sophie274]

I think you may be overanalyzing a bit - maybe she was distracted while texting, or changed her mind ... Or maybe she has been trying to have a chance meeting with you for weeks! Either way, if you think she seems like a nice fun person, you could talk to her in class and get to know her a bit more. I think it's a bit soon to ask for her number, after just one conversation, but perhaps you can set up some study sessions so you get to have a few more conversations before you ask her out.

[laura40]

You might be over-reacting, she might have just changed her mind about walking in the street & decided to use the elevator instead.

 

However, she might have wanted to chat because she likes you/wants to make a new friend.

 

You should wait for her after class, speak a little more & ask for her number. Maybe ask if she wants to study together sometime?

[caughtinabadon]

thanks for the prompt responses, much appreciated! I tend to notice and pay attention to little details around me that most people would generally not. I'm not socially awkward or a weird person by any means, but I notice little quirks in people or analyze their actions out of habit (or moreso ADHD lol)

 

but yeah I don't expect anyone to be psychic here and understand all the variables of the situation so it's nothing more than speculation as of now. I will definitely catch up with her after class when we head back to our place on the campus shuttle. Almost a perfect opportunity to get to know her on the ride back and seal the deal by getting her number. I guess the hardest part of meeting her is out of the way. Building positive rapport with her should be cake cause we are in the same program so convo material is endless.

 

but anyway back my first point, I am very observant out of nature and we have been in a lot of the same classes for over a year and sat around each other from time to time but never interacted. So I suspect she either has developed something for me over the course of a year as I basically failed to acknowledge her presence or, like someone mentioned, has been wanting to meet me for a very long time and the opportunity has just recently presented itself in many ways. Judging from her unusually enthusiastic body language when we met, how timid and reserved she has been in our classes over the course of a year, and how I may have created some sort of tension (sexual, mysterious, whatever) inadvertently by failing to acknowledge her existence, I'm inclinded to believe that she may want more.

 

guess I'll must-have to wait and see. Ps I just took some adderall which explains my unnecessarily long post with no real question hahaha sorry.

 

anyway I'll update this Tuesday or before if I run into her and let you know if I've been accepted or rejected and what I did so you can give my lacking "game" some constructive criticism hahaha

[lostandhurt]

Leaving the whole elevator/gate situation out of it I would say she is into you. The easiest way to find out is to talk to her again after class. If she still seems extra friendly then pull the trigger right then and tell her " I am going to go get some (coffee,lunch,ice cream or whatever) later why don't you meet me and we can talk some more"

 

Having game is simply doing what most guys will not do to foster the attraction. Unknown to you, you have had some game by failing to notice her all this time. She has seen you and made it a point to watch you and decided she would like to meet you. That puts you way ahead already. Just don't go all wussy and fall all over her. You have been the guy that didn't notice her and she was attracted so if you do a 180 and start giving her to much attention she might loose that attraction. The is a balance you must keep until things are going well and then you can slowly ramp it up. Remember you have nothing to loose and everything to gain by asking her for coffee or whatever. If you wait you will over think the whole thing and it will be awkward.

 

Good luck and keep us posted

 

Lost

[bubbletoes9]

I would try and keep talking to her and get to know her more. By the sounds of things she definitely notices you, and is probably attracted to you. Whether or not something else comes of it will depend on getting to know each other more...